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it's election day--go vote if you haven't already

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[–] BuxtonWater 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Going good, I managed to tell my girlfriend of 8 months that I relapsed on heroin and am trying to get off it (again) and she is very supportive and accepting, I love her so much it's unbeliveable, never loved anyone this much before, I can't believe I got so lucky from a single bumble match with a girl that lived 30 mins away by car/train. We see eachother 2 - 3 times a week, almost every week despite that, we just sit together and do stuff together, it makes time fly like the wind.

[–] zagaberoo 2 points 3 days ago

This makes me really happy; I wish you the best of luck on your difficult journey. You know what they say: the opposite of addiction is connection.

Thanks for sharing.

[–] Quexotic 3 points 3 days ago

my partner and I are still numb from everything. We have the necessary documents together in case we need to leave the country quickly. We're going to take enough money tout of the bank in case the banks crash or something like that. We're getting ready to get ready.

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 32 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

Absolutely fucking shit.

Sorry. I thought things would be different. Sorely disappointed is an understatement.

[–] Alice 11 points 2 weeks ago
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[–] PaddleMaster 21 points 2 weeks ago

I voted early. My partner voted today. Took 2 hours. We both have anxiety because of the 2016 result. All the polls were looking good, then we woke up in what felt like the wrong reality.

It’s all everyone is talking about. At work, in my apartment building. Even the sports bar down the block had election coverage on. It’s unavoidable and inescapable. I’m watching a movie to distract myself. Then I’ll turn on the news once the polls start to close.

I was an election judge in 2020. I’m kind of feeling guilty for not doing it this year. But I don’t have the capacity. I’ve been feeling straight up burnt out for most of the year with no end in sight. I’m actually thinking about calling the employer EAP.

I always celebrate all the wins in life , no matter how small. October and so far November have not had any of these. I really hope I wake up with good news.

[–] Alice 20 points 2 weeks ago

About to get a lot worse!

[–] Alice 20 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I know this is selfish and stupid but everyone is so wound up about the election that I didn't really get a birthday this year. Half my family didn't even text me.

A friend still wanted to do a birthday dinner so I texted my sibling asking if they were free, but they somehow missed that it was about my birthday plans and they were having a breakdown (not about the election) so we had to cancel birthday plans to keep them company. I shouldn't complain because I love my sibling, but whenever I told my family about mental health stuff, they always just yelled at me and made it worse. I don't understand why they suddenly believe in depression and think depressed people deserve support.

Also like I said, I know it's selfish and stupid, but I just wanted a day to pretend things were normal before I start scraping money together for my passport and getting my tubes tied.

[–] rozwud 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Happy belated! Hopefully you're able to reschedule birthday dinner.

[–] Alice 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thanks <3 I think I'm done with birthdays to be honest. Whenever my family asks what I want I just ask for a party with a cake and they never mention it again. Then my friend tried to at least take me out to do something fun and I ruined it for both of us by inviting my sibling. I don't feel right asking anything else of her or anyone.

[–] rozwud 7 points 1 week ago

Well if you have the opportunity to treat yourself at least, take it!

[–] colournoun 7 points 1 week ago

Happy Birthday! 🎂

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[–] Penguincoder 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Absolutely horrible. Keeps getting worse. But hey some good news, at least I won't be alive when the US of A finally fucking implodes on itself due to recent events. 🤬 Bigots and fascists; and this is what I served for, to 'protect'?? Fuck ya'll.

[–] apotheotic 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Thats pretty big, "at least I won't be alive"... I won't ask "everything OK?" because like, obviously it isn't, even if we just consider the trump thing. But... What's up? You okay?

[–] Penguincoder 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I am not. Wish there where a better answer. I've died three times in as many years for different reasons. This next years outlook is dwindling mine.

But thanks for asking. Doing the best I can, which is admittily not stellar and not even "OK". I exist, inefficiently.

[–] theangriestbird 10 points 1 week ago

Ugh i had no clue and this makes me so sad to hear, you are such a cornerstone for this community bee sob emoji I can't speak to all of the ways that you have "served" over the years, but your service here has not gone unnoticed. I don't pray, but i'm holding you in my thoughts today ❤

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[–] Piers 18 points 2 weeks ago

Sad, disappointed, and worried.

[–] bownage 18 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Time to sleep, hopefully when I wake up the USA isn't at civil war 🤞

[–] Penguincoder 14 points 2 weeks ago
[–] bownage 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Quexotic 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sorry. I feel ashamed to be here.

[–] bownage 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Nothing to apologise for tbh, sane people did all they could

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[–] autumn 18 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

got my early vote in on friday, since i suspected the lines were going to be long today.

today is my birthday. 🥳

sheepdog festival last weekend was great. echo got to hang out and get a billion pets from all kinds of people, which is her favorite thing! she also had her first hotel stay, which went really well. she only barked three times (at the shower).

last night, our first rally submission was recorded, which i sent in today for judging. pretty sure we'll get a passing score, easy peasy. i want to look into some more virtual titles we can do, since i get ring stress pretty bad. 😅

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
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[–] SimplyTadpole@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 1 week ago (3 children)

...Awful?

It's so fitting and poetic that, just when I finally start getting my life in order, the world throws itself off a cliff.

[–] hdnclr 12 points 1 week ago

same! just moved to a safe state and started a new job and was about to try to buy a house. just got my gender marker updated on everything. was (still am, inshallah and the creek don't rise) scheduled for bottom surgery next year. everything seemed to be going in the right direction and I had so much hope, especially in the last couple of days before the election when the energy and enthusiasm seemed to be peaking and I was thinking that Harris might actually win.

Now, fuck, I don't know if I'll have a job next year.

[–] JCPhoenix 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I started a job with the federal government two months ago. I'd been applying for like 18yrs; finally got one! Now a part of me wonders if I'll even have a job next year. Potential for Schedule F designation, layoffs of the federal bureaucracy, whatever other shit a hostile administration throws at us.

[–] rozwud 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, my partner's new job is with HUD... Who knows how that's gonna go.

[–] JCPhoenix 7 points 1 week ago

Oof. I'm in DHS. I'm assuming that in the event of any shenanigans, that'd be a "safer" place to be (though some components like FEMA and TSA maybe less so). But HUD? Definitely top of their list.

Here's hoping for the best. Because that's all we can do right now.

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[–] aspectoffate 17 points 2 weeks ago

Terrified I'll never get to vote again. Terrified it's all going to get worse. Terrified for my unborn child.

[–] Gamers_mate 15 points 2 weeks ago

Depressed since Epstein's Orange friend won. It is a dark day for humanity. As I said in the 5th of november thread I am here to talk you do not need to suffer alone. <3

[–] helix@feddit.org 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Slept <5h each day since last Wednesday.

Fucking tired. Sleep hygiene rules don't help.

Will probably try sleep meds today.

[–] Alice 8 points 2 weeks ago

I hope you're able to find a solution. Sleep deprivation makes everything so much harder.

[–] Megaman_EXE 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm curious if this is the last resemblance of democracy the United States will see.

I'm worried for the people stuck in red states, and worried this is going to spread outside America again like it did in 2016. I feel like I must live in a very different world compared to rural americans. I can't imagine how a fascist authoritarian would be the logical choice ever.

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[–] Thevenin 12 points 1 week ago

I gotta say, this was a weird week to start HRT.

[–] rozwud 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Dropped off my absentee ballot earlier today.

Update on Linus (our kitty who experienced kidney failure last week): Last I posted we were waiting to find out how much his numbers had gone up. It turns out his creatine went up quite a bit. It was over 3, when normally it should be 1.5 or lower. The vet said at this point it's possible it could go back down (he didn't seem optimistic about this), stay the same, or go up more. We're taking him in again on Thursday to see what it is then. If it stays the same, we probably only have about two or three years left with him if we keep him on a renal diet.

He has a lot of his personality back and has his full appetite back (yesterday was the first time he ate his usual amount of food since he's been hospitalized), but his energy level is definitely lower than it was before.

[–] PaddleMaster 7 points 2 weeks ago

Sorry to hear about Linus. Kitties are very good at hiding their illness. May all your days with Linus be the best days ❤️. And hopefully there are many days left to enjoy.

[–] GammaGames 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

not great

but about to play some gameboy so that’s good

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[–] LallyLuckFarm 10 points 1 week ago

Despite almost two months of not gaining weight despite feeding on demand, our daughter is finally up to the 41st percentile for weight gain by age and is hitting her developmental milestones. Trying to focus on those positives instead of all the negative emotions I'm harboring right now. Trying to remember that she's a tiny little vibe-o-meter and that my primary focus has to be her well-being in spite of everything else that's going on.

[–] Quexotic 9 points 1 week ago

I want to post my thoughts, but at this point, I feel like the country has gone so far off the rails that I need to keep an eye on my op-sec. Suffice it to say that I'm devastated, exhausted, but filled with a new resolve. This post (a bit of a long read) has been helping me refocus and move forward: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/

[–] Aloomineum 8 points 2 weeks ago (8 children)

I am autistic and in my country I've been told before by my case worker that I qualify for MAID. This cruel world just isn't meant for people like me, and I am now starting the application process for MAID.

[–] Alice 11 points 2 weeks ago

I'm so sorry. I wish the world was kinder.

[–] theangriestbird 8 points 1 week ago

qualified due to autism? You have not explicitly said your reasons for seeking MAID, and whatever they are, I'm sure that you know what you are doing. I just want you to know that I believe autistic people are one of greatest natural gifts that the world has given us. Y'all have a gift to see the world in a refreshingly-different way from everyone else, and there are many autistic folks in my life that I love dearly. Many of them have survived some very dark phases in their lives, where everything seemed hopeless, and yet today they are the happiest people I know.

Whatever you end up doing, I just want you to know that I believe your existence is a treasure to this world, and many others do as well. But I don't know anything about the rest of your situation, and I respect whatever you decide to with your own life.

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[–] MutatedBass 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Good so far. My wife and are currently in Miami waiting for our connecting flight to Jamaica. We have been looking forward to this for months. Getting everything ready was stressful but we are very excited. This will be my first time leaving the US.

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