That sounds incredibly frustrating. I really hope you're eventually able to find some friends who you don't feel the need to walk on eggshells around.
rozwud
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Obviously without the full context it's hard to say for certain, but IMO if people are acting in the way you're describing in response to some criticism, that's more an indicator of work they should probably be doing on themselves than anything you did. I'm not saying there aren't times when it would have been helpful to word things differently because maybe there were, but I wouldn't be too quick to put all the blame on yourself.
That seems odd to me that your therapist never asked for examples. If you ever feel like it, I'm sure people here would be happy to give you input if you're wondering how people might generally react to something in particular.
I doubt that you are making people spiral. From what I've experienced and observed in my own life, I think people who are dealing with shit tend to attract other people who are dealing with similar shit. And sometimes, depending on how said people are dealing with their shit, everyone's shit can start colliding and turn into a shit storm. It's not one person's fault, and all any individual can do is work on their own shit and go from there.
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I spent an entire day walking along the coast in Lagos, Portugal. The scenery was stunning!
I don't know. I'm lucky that I'm a teacher and education hasn't been too fucked over in my state, so I'm in a pretty good position currently. But I want to believe that no matter what happens, my priorities are going to be finding community and looking out for each other and resisting for the sake of resisting. I don't know. I've never wanted kids, so I guess there's something biologically off with me since it don't want to keep my genes going. But something about me wants to keep my ideals going. Not sure if you're trying to find reasons to stay alive, but maybe that could be one.
Question for all of you: My therapist (who I meet with virtually) did not show up for our session today. That is not like her. I emailed her about ten minutes in to confirm that we were on for today with no response and then 30 minutes in to tell her I was logging off and expressed that I hoped everything was okay. I haven't heard back and I'm somewhat concerned about her since this really isn't like her. Would you reach out again or just let it be? I'm trying to decide if I was in her position if I would prefer privacy or people showing they care, and I really don't know.
I managed to get zero hours of sleep last night... Wish me luck at work today!
Okay, thanks!
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Thanks for the write-up; this sounds like something I might really enjoy!