Don't go cheap if it separates you from the ground. Buying quality shoes, tires, sofa/ recliner, and bed will always be worth the investment.
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Definitely a bed. Do not cut costs on your mattress, you spend a third of your life laying on one and if it's not good, it will fuck your back up.
Bed. That is the "luxury" you should prioritise above anything else.
I've slept in all kinds of qualities of bed (and discussed it with others who have done the same.)
The quality of the bed you sleep in at night is a huge factor in the quality of the you that you are when you're awake. The best sleep I've had on bad beds is still no better than the worst I've had on good ones and when you repeat that day after day, into week after week, into year after year, the cumulative effect on both your quality of life and physical health is immense. You should never make sleeping on a bad bed your long-term plan if you can possibly avoid it.
Every single day of your life is influenced by the quality of sleep you got before you started and therefore the quality and type of bed.
It is a huge gap in privilege between people who have lifestyles that make a good bed a standard expectation that is easily achieved and those who have to make do with what's cheap. The former group will always just be healthier, happier, better rested and more prepared for the challenges in front of them than the other.
I'd recommend a good quality pocket-sprung mattress (you can't really find cheap bad ones) over a sturdy wooden slatted frame although the modern foam mattresses are also very popular now and can be a good choice if you can't easily realistically get a massive heavy inflexible mattress where it needs to go.
Socks. I spent my life wearing cheapo Walmart socks but my partner bought me a few pairs of merino wool socks last christmas. Hoo boy are those things amazing, they keep your feet cool in the heat and warm in the cold, and it feels like you're wearing silky little clouds.
Nice socks are more comfortable and last longer. I think long term they're even more economical
Merino wool is the good stuff. My sock experience is the same. I also bought some fancy sneakers that are merino, treated to be water repellent. I wear them to the office all year and I've not had any smell issues. I used to always buy cheap shoes and cheap socks but here it seems that your choice of material really makes a difference. I'll pay the price for that.
A bidet. I'm in America.
I'd also add a slow closing toilet lid. Never slam it again.
I got used to slow-closing toilet lids at home. It's become a habit to get the lid moving down with a little flick of the wrist. Not too hard, but not nothing either. I recently stayed in a hotel room where the bathroom didn't have this feature... When out of pure habit, half asleep and barely even realizing that I was closing the lid, I used my familiar flick of the wrist, the heavy, solid lid flew down like a bolt of lightning and slammed hard against the toilet seat. There amongst all of the acoustically reflective surfaces of the hotel bathroom the noise was so loud it actually made my ears ring. It was lucky that I had just relieved myself because had I still had any shit left in me, the surprise might have scared it right out.
Good coffee. It's always worth it for me. There's still an upper limit of super-expensiveness I won't go past, but neither do I cheap out.
It took me a while, but eventually realized that the price of the good stuff was still maybe a tenth the cost of getting coffee from a kiosk.
My rule is anything I use almost every day is worth splurging on. I will also splurge on specialized tools, like nail clippers.
For example, I got an expensive trash can for the kitchen and it’s just a nice object that adds a subtle bit of niceness to the day. The lid drops at the perfect speed, and the bag never slips off the opening.
A nice keyboard, mouse and monitor. It's the way you interact with your computer the most and yet many people seem content with bargain versions, even when they spend 8-10 hours a day using them.
Same for your computer chair. Get a comfy one, you're gonna sit in it a lot.
getting an extra-long phone charging cable is such a silly purchase but it’s sooo useful. like i can’t live without one at this point. phone almost dead but the outlet is too far away? not anymore it’s not!
Recurring house cleaning services.
I'd probably be divorced by now if we hadn't made the investment. It doesn't cost as much you think and whatever it costs the mental health and couples benefits of a clean home is worth the investment.
Amen. A good house cleaner only must charge slightly less than a divorce.
One of my luxuries is that I shave using straight and safety razors (it's actually more economical & less of an environmental impact that using shitty gillette style razors) is to splurge a bit on the shaving soap and brush
Nothing like a nice, frothy lather!
Still MUCH cheaper than buying Gillette razors....and a much better, more enjoyable shave.
Here’s hoping we can build a nice community like Wicked_Edge over here.
Good loose leaf tea.
This. Most retail teabags are made with "fannings" which is basically the dust left after they've made the actual proper tea. It's cheap and brews very fast so it has mass market appeal but it tastes accordingly. Quality loose leaf tea is amazing and the flavour difference is huge. It doesn't immediately get that burnt tannin flavour like fannings do.
A heating blanket.
Pros:
- It's warm and cozy
- It keeps achy joints happy in the winter
- It attracts cats
Cons:
- Your cat will claim it and you will feel guilty taking it back
Perhaps it's more of a hobby than a little luxury, but if you do any handwriting at all, a nice fountain pen and quality notebook. It's just a nice feeling to write with a really smooth pen on good paper. And if you have RSI/arthritis like me, you may find that fountain pens are less fatiguing to use than a roller ball or gel pen. Sure, you have to clean and refill every so often, but that turns into a fun little ritual itself.
r/fountainpens was probably my favorite subreddit. Everyone was so nice and supportive of each other. During the time when Reddit gave out free awards, I made several accounts just so I could award new people who introduced themselves with entry-level fountain pens.
An air fryer, I now use it almost as often as my microwave. It can cook meat, fry potatoes, roast vegetables, reheat frozen meals (for my extra-lazy pizza bite days), toast bread... some leftovers even reheat better in the air fryer than the microwave (eg pizza). I actually just splurged on the DREO ChefMaker Combi Fryer based on an Adam Ragusea recommendation, basically air fryer++ with smart heat cycles, built-in thermometer, and a water container for programmatic steaming.
If you like to cook, a decent chef's knife. If you like to play video games, a quality controller. If you travel at all, a quality carry on bag and/or backpack. If you're creative and like to write music, a small USB midi controller.
These are some of the things that come to mind.
A good, supportive pillow: You use it every day and it can help prevent neck issues. Most people keep pillows for quite a long time anyway, so if you find one you like, why not spend more on something that you really like?
A good monitor: I upgraded to a really big and high resolution monitor about a half a year ago and it has made a huge difference. Before I was experiencing really bad eye strain and it is gone now. I have more space to do my work, which has increased my productivity, too.
Good coffee: My morning coffee makes me happy. I don't usually spend a ton on coffee, but I do like to get decent, whole-bean coffee. About once a month I will treat myself to some really nice, fresh coffee beans. I live by a roaster and can get it for a good price and super fresh.
A great keyboard, a good mouse, a laaaaaarge mouse pad.
I use those things throughout most of the day, why not make it enjoyable.
At this point in my life, anything that brings happiness is something I try to prioritize and worry less about the cost.
Good shoes. The old school Birkenstocks completely eliminated my back pain. A good office chair and desk to avoid posture issues.
Most people spend roughly 1/3 of every day in bed. If you have the money to splurge on one piece of furniture in your house, spend it on a decent mattress. When I was younger, I just threw a futon on the floor and called it good enough, but I sleep so much better now that I'm no longer doing that... and a good night's sleep improves your odds of having a good rest of your day.
Some amazing advice was, "when you have money, prioritize spending on the things that go between you and the ground. Good mattress, good shoes, good tires, etc."
For me, it's good chocolate. Miss me with that Hershey's, I'd rather spend a bit more and get a bar that actually tastes like chocolate. That and I feel better supporting brands with fair trade and sustainable certifications.
A weighted blanket, especially if you have anxiety. I run hot when I sleep and I’ve had no issues since the blanket is weighted with small glass beads evenly distributed throughout the inside.
This is harder to find now, but a good optician can fit your glasses to your face, know what adjustments are necessary just by looking, and determine all the lens parameters beyond the prescription. I can come in and without even describing the issue, my optician can fix my glasses.
Good coffee. I roast my own coffee but I will definitely splurge on great quality beans.
Deep tissue massage. I have scoliosis and so have chronic back and shoulder pain, so massage is remedial moreso than luxury. It is nice to have though generally, good reminder to take a break
A long shower.
Idk if this counts as a luxury or not but sometimes spending extra to get some fresh fruits or vegetables that are locally grown is so worth it.
As for the bed, amen. Hip problems run in my family and I replaced my old worn out bed with a hybrid bed and my hip pain became so much more manageable within 2 weeks.
For long flights - business class. It's not a small splurge by any means but the ability to lay down and sleep comfortably is a game changer as a no-longer-in-my-twenties person. Free champagne and way better food is nice as well.
A fantastic shower head is roughly 15 bucks. Plumbers tape is 50 cents for more than you’ll ever need.
And you already own the pliers to take out the flow restrictor
Good underwear. I like Saxx boxer briefs. Breathable, doesn't ride up, and they support my junk with choking it.
A ceiling fan is becoming increasingly essential for being able to sleep, at list in my corner of the world.
As a mom of 2 with my own art business to run, Home Chef. I know it's more expensive than grocery shopping, but saving myself the time to make a big list and then shop is worth it.
Avocados? At least in this economy, don't care if I'm spending over $1.5-2+ for a single jumbo avocado.
Maybe a little obvious but plenty of houseplant decor can really liven up a space. For outdoor spaces, it's nice to have native plants well adapted to your climate and to support local insects and fauna. Flowers are really beautiful and fun to arrange even if it's just for yourself. On that note, frames for posters also elevate any wall art decor. I try to do big sales in Michael's, home good stores, and thrift shops.
For those who use cannabis like me, I gotta say a good vape is worth its weight in gold in the day to day experience.