Yeah boys, anger is a fear response, not proof you're tough.
this post was submitted on 24 Mar 2025
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I'm my experience my rage was less anger at something and more frustration at being unable to produce the proper emotion for a situation. I feel that it's likely true for many men because as always we weren't raised to feel. Thanks John Wayne loving Boomer parents.
here's a link directly to the article, instead of having to scroll through a bunch of unrelated stuff: https://www.halifaxexaminer.ca/morning-file/male-rage-is-a-sign-of-weakness-not-strength/#V2
looks like the main post link is updated now. thanks Sunshine!
Testosterone and never being taught emotional regulation techniques is a hell of a combo.
When I was first starting to work through deeply repressed childhood sexual abuse related trauma I was a fucking menace.
The only people that I really think understand how much of a liability being juiced full of testosterone in society would be trans women who have faced hrt scarcity. The stories she told me about the night and day difference in her ability to process things was very interesting.
My boyfriend was raised by his parents to appear strong and to obey, even if he disagreed or if doing so was harmful to him.
And that type of childhood resulted in disparity between his actions and his feelings, which he is still trying untangle.
while noting your experience, i do think it's good context to have that testosterone for trans men / transmasc folks can also improve their ability to process emotions and also generally their temperance (and personally, estrogen just makes me a goddamn wreck; i get depressed, irritable, cynical, etc)
(i worry that the anecdotes you've heard from trans women may be a little biased, as well 😅 i personally tend to think it's more about the right hormones, than what they are)
there's plenty about trauma itself that causes behaviorial instability. hormones may be a contributing factor in some situations, but i question how universal it is
Nothing is as weak as being unable to control your emotions.
Can confirm, I'm quite weak and rage-y
There is a certain type of man that always dismisses women as too emotional for leadership/management/politics then proceeds to explode at the slightest provocation.
Being emotional isn't always a bad thing. Expressing it isn't always bad. But have some fucking self awareness.
The loudest baboon has the smallest balls.
There's a reason this type of rage is colloquially known as impotent rage.
The man in the story is an asshole and weak for sure.
I really hate the idea of saying having any emotion is a sign of weakness though, even rage.
Having emotions is fine. Failure to regulate yourself while having them is weakness.
That I can get down with👈😎
So if someone's kicking your grandmother's ass, and you get angry, it's a sign of weakness?
Nah but getting angry about it doesn't "do" anything and just being angry doesn't solve the problem.
I'm curious about your answer to this. Do you believe it is?
Well, if it was my grandmammy, she'd be the one winning. She was T O U G H! I wish I had even a smidgen of her awesomeness. I bet your gammy was cool too.