At the risk of becoming too anti-casual, anti-gay slurs were so common in the US up until the mid/late 90s, if you weren't there for it you just have no idea. One of the Bill and Ted movies (I think the first one?) just randomly dropping it in there as a joke, where the slur is the joke, is a good example of just how it was then. There's still bigotry but it's not as casual and pervasive.
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Eminem has a song where he casually drops an F bomb.
a lot of media used the F slur well into the 2000s. it's pretty shocking to watch nowdays
Smoking everywhere. For anyone who wasn't around for the 70s/80s/90s, everything was tinged yellow and smelled of smoke. Car/plane/train seats had built-in ashtrays. Restaurants had smoking sections separated from the non-smoking sections by waist-high walls.
I have asthma and it sucked. Not sure if I grew out of it as I got older or if there's just not a miasma of smoke around everywhere, but it rarely bothers me anymore.
The lack of privacy, independence, and freedom that generally comes with childhood.
yeah I always wanted to be an adult and now that I am it's fucking awesome
Henry Kissinger
May he rot into nothing and be forgotten
Dial-up internet. I would open a website and go do something else for a minute until it loads, then fight with my parents when they pick up the phone when I've been downloading something for 3 hours.
We had very late internet infrastructure upgrade, so at the end we had a bluetooth dial-up internet router in the early 2010s...
Internet over bluetooth is a crime against humanity
@simple@lemm.ee Minitel was even worse. But then, Minitel was a French exclusivity.
@Servais@discuss.tchncs.de
obligatory quick Sylvqin video (in french though)
I haven't known the minitel but I guess that the novelty of BBSes compensated the loading time
@Taewyth@jlai.lu @Servais@discuss.tchncs.de @simple@lemm.ee When I was still in school, the Minitel was still used to register us to pass our diplomas. One of the schools I was in even still used an actual Minitel terminal to do so. (Most used a compatibility option integrated in dial-ups modems sold in the country. As did my father a couple of times for other unrelated tasks that couldn't yet be done via internet, when we first got it at home.)
The Ozone hole.
The Nazis.
OH WAIT.
Damn, came to make this joke myself.
George W. Bush's presidency. I don't know what the kids are smoking when they say current republicans make him look "classy" or that Trump's first term was worse than his. He bred a constant state of paranoia and xenophobia and used it to justify killing countless people in the middle east. The damage done to that part of the world is staggering and everyone just treats it like background noise.
Also that decade post-SpongeBob where every kid's cartoon was about a loud, annoying, dumb guy.
GWB definitely had a scarier presidency than Trumps first term for sure. but this second term is unlike anything I've ever seen
Absolutely, that's why I specified the first term! Even during Biden I kept seeing people say GWB was better than Trump, when they didn't have this current nightmare fresh affecting their judgment. The kids just really want to redeem Bush for some reason.
Imagine being 6 years old and your mother hugging you while crying. You have no electricity. It's night time. Artillery shell explosions followed by the crumbling buildings and injured crying in pain are the only break you get from your mother's sounds of sobbing. They're destroying your entire block, but what you feel is terror. You can look out a window and see flashes. You don't even know what politics or weapons of mass destruction. You're just there scared until you die. You wonder what you did for this to happen. Now imagine hundreds of that same experience per night.
That never makes it into the news. I would love to see people's responses. Show the child and mother live. Then, people are randomly asked, "Push button to kill this person immediately or you will be put in jail and shamed for life." Let's see how they react to that guilt for eternity.
There's a quote from Game of Thrones that I think of often. The setting is that 3 brutal high-class leaders have to decide which one of them will die as punishment. They start getting nervous, so Tyrion says:
It always seems a bit abstract, doesn't it, other people dying?
I find it validating.
CDs and DVDs and (video)casettes. Took up so much room, annoying to use while travelling.
Quality was also very low. Nostalgia blurred our memories, watching/listening that stuff today is wild.
CDs are great though :( I love that I can rip them and back them up, play them wherever I go, no licences or streaming. :)
It's not "gone", but the notion of it being "acceptable" is gone:
Using 'retard' as a slur, not only for people with intellectual disabilities but also just for people or things you think were stupid.
white dog poop
This is probably completely uninteresting to everyone else, but this has re-surfaced an old memory for me. I had a really dull data entry job one summer, and the crowd I worked with included a few odd figures. One particular guy was always making jokes that were just a bit too edgy for the workplace, especially amongst a bunch of people that didn't know him well enough to know how much he meant any of it. For some reason, completely unprompted, he brought up that "you never see white dog turds any more". Everyone heard this as "white doctors" and immediately winced in anticipation of some incoming racism, and everyone still heard it that way when he tried to clarify several times. Turns out no, it was 100% innocent, just weird.
He was fired for unrelated reasons a few weeks later; he had gone to the nearby pub on his lunch break and had several pints
goals, honestly
For anyone that doesn't know, dog food used to contain a lot of bone meal; as dog poop degraded (?), the bone meal would remain. Hence white dog poop. I think that this changed due to tighter regulations on pet food.
smoking everywhere
Orkut, Flogão (kind of a precursor to instagram, it was mostly used by high schoolers around 2004-6), Skype, Internet Explorer and ActiveX
And Adobe Flash.
Literally installed Flash 8 today because it's the comfiest way to animate for me.
I think they were speaking of the Player.
I kinda miss Flash because of the amount of interesting games made with it. Some very cool animations too, good thing Ruffle exists nowadays.
The problem (besides Adobe buying Macromedia) was every fucking business deciding to make their entire sites in Flash
CRT screens and incandescent lamp.
Having recently played some retro games on era appropriate hardware, I'm actually a little sad CRTs are gone.
Obviously they were heavy, hard to manufactur safely, and were filled with toxic materials, but man are they like the perfect anti-aliasing tool for retro games. I'm sure some good filters exist to replicating it on newer monitors tho.
Overall tho I am glad both of these things are no longer the defacto used tech.
Objectively, dial-up.
Otoh, what I would really badly like to become a thing again is actual media ownership, ie. not having streaming services randomly yank your stuff away from you.
Also, I would nominate the fact that the 'It's obsolete as soon as you get it in the door' meme hasn't been valid for decades now, but hardware manufacturers, Windows itself, and the game industry are trying really hard to make that a thing again seemingly.
Yup! Spotify removing things off my playlists was a big initial factor into me getting into self hosting. All my music streams through Plex now and I haven't looked back
Even DRM-free storefronts like 7Digital for music or GOG for games aren't immune to random delistings.
For music, I've pulled it into my self hosted Plex setup, so even if the original sources like Bandcamp die, I am hosting my own copy.
Games are their own beast. Hard to do similar self hosted concepts when there are servers involved, other players, etc. I'm still 100% on the "streaming services" for games.
phones with curly cords
Phones with dials.
The US.
Susan Wojcicki
She got replaced by her right hand man, meh
I’m so fucking glad we’ve stopped calling women “hysterical” whenever we don’t believe them. That word is so blatantly misogynistic and it seems to be dying out now.
DEI