I understand the sentiment. By saying we, I meant myself and the other users. We should take more responsibility for what we share. Maybe we can try to make that part of the culture. The title should be the information we personally want to spread or call to attention.
elfpie
joined 1 year ago
We really should moderate the titles more. I just realized that every article I ignored I basically accepted as truth. Or, at least, my brain accepted as truth in the background. I'll see the same lie twice a day everyday and start processing as fact.
I read it as being at least one of the three. If it's not kind, is it a relevant fact? If it's only your opinion, does that contribute to the discussion?
I think the questions are a tool to make us aware of our behavior. People have issues and can get triggered without noticing and engage in a conversation to their own detriment. Be kind is generic. Do you really want to attack and cause harm to someone else (someone might, BTW)? Are you using facts as a weapon? Is it in your best interest to say something, or in the interest of something positive?
Also, if the reason is to distract yourself, that's a reason. It's not a good reason all the time though.
It does in my opinion. Put an "OK?" at the end so they can confirm. Just so they don't see it as a meaningless offer.
I think you are in the right path by seeing a way forward both for yourself and and in relation to your niece. Also, sometimes it's important to be explicit and say whatever may be necessary. Just saying you'll be there for the people in need might be an opening they can explore in the future. Mostly, be open.
We will never have as much control as we might want over the tragedies of the world. What I would suggest is for you to answer the questions you asked at least and at most once. You can't change the past, but you can learn from it.
Do it for yourself. They say writing by hand is best. What would you have done differently? What do you wish you could have done? What would you tell your nephew? What would you tell your past self?
I just realized how queer my favorites are. Mostly long form essayists, but entertainers. I'm too tired now to offer good descriptions, but they are worth it.
Jessica Kellgren-Fozard (https://www.youtube.com/@jessicaoutofthecloset) My number one feel good channel. LGBTQ+, vintage fashion, disabilities, media analysis, historical profiles, parenting tips. A lot.
Jessie Gender (https://www.youtube.com/c/lostrekkie) Nerd content, trans content, good content with kindness and nuance. Just don’t threaten her well being.
Rowan Ellis (https://www.youtube.com/@HeyRowanEllis) Media analysis focused on queer topics.
Shanspeare (https://www.youtube.com/@Shanspeare) Discussions around pop culture while being fabulous.
verilybitchie (https://www.youtube.com/@verilybitchie) Smart, funny, varied topics.
Tara Mooknee (https://www.youtube.com/@TaraMooknee) The only youtube channel written and produced by a cow.
talistheintrovert (https://www.youtube.com/@talistheintrovert) “If you like listening to people complain about things, then boy am I the channel for you!”
Princess Weekes (https://www.youtube.com/@Princess_Weekes) “Talking about pop culture, race, feminism, and other social issues with a lot of nuance and profanity.”
Khadija Mbowe (https://www.youtube.com/@KhadijaMbowe) "Cool, fun, Queer Aunty"- Their branding, "Big sister or friend their head."- Their comment section, "A sentient garbage disposal."- Their own words
Philosophy Tube (https://www.youtube.com/@PhilosophyTube) There’s a lot to learn, even if I personally ignore the specifics.
Maggie Mae Fish (https://www.youtube.com/@MaggieMaeFish) Perfect balance between funny and informative and unhinged. Movies from an interesting point of view.
Mia Mulder (https://www.youtube.com/@MiaMulder) Don’t care for philosophy? Some history for you.
Thank you for checking in. I really do need more kindness in my life. It wasn't a personal post. I used myself as an example, and transphobia, so it wouldn't be totally abstract. There's a comment here that says what I wanted to express in a more direct way.
My intended audience likes to lurk in these spaces and pop in to offer academic arguments when people are talking about their very real lives. Psychologically, I'd say they get dissonance from reading something and comment to deal with it.
You are right about my intention. We do make mistakes. I actually believe we have to if we want to progress, but not at the expense of other people.
Thank you for this comment. It's a very clean explanation.
TW: examples of transphobic discourse
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Would you consider calling trans people cross dressers transphobic? Some decades ago, there were trans people calling themselves exactly that. The way we talk about gender nowadays is more widespread and saying something like this will invalidate a person's identity. So, someone in their ignorance describes a trans woman as a drag queen or say they are the same. Is that transphobic? Is there a problem with saying it's absurd to call women people who menstruate if the one saying it doesn't realize how misguided they are?
It's not about the person saying it, it's about who has to experience this violence - over and over again.
And here is what I felt wrong for thinking. If you see gender as a social construct, why reinforce the norms in your transition? Why not just live without them? Which was my non binary brain trying to get in gear as I understand now.
I think submitting the whole article will put the instance in danger of copyright strikes.