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Most of the time when people say they have an unpopular opinion, it turns out it's actually pretty popular.

Do you have some that's really unpopular and most likely will get you downvoted?

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[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 304 points 1 year ago (28 children)

Fuck ALL advertisements. Yes, even "unobtrusive" ones, especially yours. If I want your shit, I will find you. If I appreciate your shit, I'll pay you for your time. If you want to connect, I'm all ears. Otherwise, fuck off capitalists, fuck off advertisers, and fuck off useful idiots who want to waste my finite lifespan in this miserable universe showing me ads.

[–] Granixo@feddit.cl 122 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I literally just came from another post that was talking about this.

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[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 40 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Unfortunately there's a lot of products that most people don't even know exist. Hell I keep finding new tools and wondering why I've been doing things the hard way for so long.

OTOH, fuck all the advertisers who use shady tactics to make sales, and especially fuck all the people who pray on the naivety of others to steal their money. I was just showing a customer an email I got the other day stating her domain hosting was past due and required immediate payment, and she asked how I knew it was a scam. Uh, hello, because ---I--- am hosting your domain and website (and this is exactly why I share this kind of stuff with people, to make them think before they blindly write a check).

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[–] ReallyKinda@kbin.social 204 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (37 children)

The average person shouldn’t be allowed to drive. It’s extremely dangerous and most people are desensitized to it and absolutely don’t take the natural responsibility towards others that comes with having the ability to kill someone with a finger twitch (or a slight lapse in attention) seriously enough. I don’t think it would be allowed if it was just invented this year.

[–] Synthead@lemmy.ml 41 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Too many places let you drive if you do the happy path stuff right: stopping at a stop sign, changing lanes safely, etc. But the most important time of your driving is when you're about to hit a semitruck and you need to get your car out of the way, and there is no training material for this at all. People often panic and slam the brakes and aggressively turn the wheel, which is a perfect setup for understeer and losing control of your car. They are literally getting in a situation where they are about to die and they choose to greatly increase their risk due to negligence.

It's cheaper to run simulators than purchase cars and hire trainers. Get em in nasty situations and teach them how to get out of it. For real, if mom and dad can't evade sinking their freeway missile into a van full of kids, they shouldn't be able to get behind the wheel and be presented with opportunities where this might happen any time they drive.

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[–] CheeseBread@lemmy.ml 178 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (21 children)

Pansexual, polysexual, and omnisexual are all microlabels and are all subsets of bisexual. You don't need more labels than gay, straight, and bi.

Edit: I forgot about asexuals. But I specifically only care about bi subsets. They're dumb, and you only need bi

[–] pizza-bagel@kbin.social 67 points 1 year ago (1 children)

And asexual

But I agree. The bi community already collectively decided we are trans and nonbinary inclusive. We don't need to further separate it out.

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[–] Teon@kbin.social 154 points 1 year ago (11 children)

All religions should be heavily taxed. NO EXCEPTIONS!!

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[–] frozen@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 139 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (26 children)

Being fat is a choice the vast majority of the time, and I have a huge bias against big people.

I used to be fat (250ish lbs (110ish kg) at 5'8"ish (172ish cm)), and as much as I would like to blame my shit on anything else, the person feeding me, the person sitting at the computer for hours, the person actively avoiding all physical activity was me and no one else. After I got diagnosed with some weight related shit, I turned my entire life upside down, am at a much healthier 150 lbs (68ish kg), and feel so much better, both physically and mentally.

I'm aware of my bias, and I make every active effort to counter it in my actual dealings with bigger people. Especially because there are certain circumstances, however rarely, where it may not actually be their fault. But I'd be lying if I said my initial impression was anything except "God, what a lazy, fat fuck."

Edit: Added metric units

[–] pizza-bagel@kbin.social 48 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I used to be fat, and when I watch morbidly obese people talk about how much they love food and it makes them happy and makes them feel better that is 100% me. Food is absolutely an addiction for some people, including me. Thankfully I have it under control to be at a healthy weight and lose weight when I need to, but some of these people have absolutely tragic childhoods or life experiences and I don't blame them at all for coping in that way. I could 100% see myself in that position if I had been through what they have been through.

However, those people are self aware that they are unhealthy. The people I can't stand are the "healthy at every size" fat acceptance people. Healthy at every size was SUPPOSED to be that you can make positive health focused changes at any size and there is no point of no return. But it got twisted into I can be morbidly obese and I am still 100% healthy forever. And they even make people feel bad for wanting to lose weight, even if it's for health reasons. Those people are trash and fall on the same level as antivax people IMO.

Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, until you start spewing harmful bullshit and then I will judge you as much as I want.

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[–] Vlyn@lemmy.ml 30 points 1 year ago

I totally get that, same here.

But ultimately you can't just blame people. There is literally an entire industry trying to sell you cheap carbs and fat. Down to the sound a bag of chips makes when you open it (this is not a joke).

So on one hand you have evolution, your body still being stuck in the past where food was scarce. On the other hand you have too much food and it's highly engineered to be addicting on purpose.

It's no surprise most people are going to lose that challenge.

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[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 119 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (12 children)

We don't need more pronouns. We need less of them.

In my native language there is no even he/she pronouns. The word is β€œhΓ€n” and it’s gender neutral. You can be male, female, FTM, MTF, non-binary or what ever and you’re still called β€œhΓ€n”. You can identify as anything you like and "hΓ€n" already includes you.

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[–] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 116 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Most people shouldn't be parents.

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[–] Ringmasterincestuous@aussie.zone 113 points 1 year ago (9 children)

After an entity reaches an annual cap (say $5m profit), 95c of every dollar should be taxed

[–] GreenMario@lemm.ee 34 points 1 year ago

Give em a "you won capitalism!" Participation trophy πŸ† too.

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[–] Sombyr@lemmy.one 89 points 1 year ago (10 children)

Most conservatives, however deeply red, are not intentionally hateful and are usually open to rational discussion. People just don't know how to have rational discussions nowadays and the few times they do, they don't know how to think like somebody else and put things in a way they can understand.

People nowadays think because a point convinced them, it should convince everybody else and anybody who's not convinced by it is just being willfully ignorant. The truth is we all process things differently and some people need to hear totally different arguments to understand, often put in ways that wouldn't convince you if you heard it.

It's hard to understand other people and I feel like the majority of people have given up trying in favor of assuming everybody who disagrees with you knows their wrong and refuses to admit it.

[–] Squirrel@thelemmy.club 37 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If it wasn't for their response to the pandemic, I might be inclined to agree with you.

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[–] loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 85 points 1 year ago (9 children)
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[–] Wilshire 79 points 1 year ago (19 children)

Owning a second home should be illegal.

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[–] shrugal@lemm.ee 68 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

We have blown the concept of ownership way out of proportion. No one should be able to own things they have absolutely no connection to, like investment firms owning companies they don't work for, houses they don't live in or land they've never been to.

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[–] squaresinger@feddit.de 68 points 1 year ago (10 children)

It is really hard to have an unpopular opinion unless you are mentally deranged/a conspiracy theorist.

As evidenced by the comments under this very post. Even when trying most people can't come up with an actually unpopular opinion.

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[–] Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de 66 points 1 year ago (18 children)

Lemmy.world holding such a prevalent place in the Lemmy/Kbin part of the Fediverse makes it a major single point of failure.

They should still be the newcomers instance, but communities and users should migrate to other instances to increase the resilience of the Fediverse.

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[–] eddy@infosec.pub 64 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Religion is nothing more then social engineering on a grand scale.

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[–] Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml 63 points 1 year ago (9 children)

People who are strongly against nuclear power are ignorant of the actual safety statistics and are harming our ability to sustainably transition off fossil fuels and into renewables.

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[–] christophski@feddit.uk 58 points 1 year ago (10 children)

Not having kids because of climate change is stupid. You are leaving the world in the hands of people who care less than you.

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[–] mobyduck648 57 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Here’s an opinion that’s actually unpopular rather than simply controversial: domestic flights in the UK other than to Northern Ireland (which isn’t on the same island so fair enough) should be forbidden on the grounds their contribution to climate change cannot be justified.

Instead we should renationalise the railways by letting the franchises expire without renewing them and expand their capacity as far as we can. Instead of pissing around with HS2 we fuck the NIMBYs over with an Act of Parliament which they can’t swat away or delay and extend it all the way up to Scotland.

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[–] BynaD@lemm.ee 51 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I find it insane that the same people who are anti-fossil fuel and want only green energy is also anti-nuclear power. I also want fossil fuels gone, but nuclear is the only way we are able to get to where we need to.

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[–] dillydogg@lemmy.one 51 points 1 year ago (7 children)

I LOVE banana flavored stuff. When I say this, people will often say "even banana flavored Laffy Taffy?". Yes, that's the best flavor and it's not even close.

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[–] LongPigFlavor@lemmy.ml 43 points 1 year ago

We've been living in a dystopia for a very long time now, we're just becoming more aware to it.

[–] Magnetar@feddit.de 43 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Lemmy needs "sort by controversial" for entertainment purposes.

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[–] loffiz@feddit.nl 42 points 1 year ago (5 children)

USA is an oligarchy. I can imagine americans disagree. But perhaps not lemmies.

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[–] Hyperreality@kbin.social 40 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

It is already legal to have a sexual relationship with multiple partners at the same time. Bigamy should be legalised. That it isn't, is a result of entrenched bigotry and religious prudery.

If you're using God as a proper noun, capitalise it. Not capitalising it is potentially confusing. Eg. There are numerous gods. Zeus is a god and God is a god.

It is likely too late to avert climate apocalypse. Don't have kids and you've done far more than most to prevent climate change. (This doesn't mean we shouldn't try to prevent it.)

A lot of society's ills are attributable to arseholes not getting punched in the face enough. This includes the fact that we can't make it legal to punch arseholes in the face, because arseholes would abuse that right to punch people who don't deserve it in the face.

America has become so fat, that most Americans have a skewed perception of what it means to be obese.

Most sports are stupid. Michael Phelps can swim 6 mph. Fish can swim 10x faster than that. Fuck that. I want to watch a tiger chase Trump through a maze.

The already high male suicide rate is severely underestimated. A lot of male risk taking behaviour, including car/bike related accidents, is suicidal in nature.

In practice identity based politics is often used to divide and conquer and distract people from their true interests. Class consciousness is more important. You have more in common with your colleagues, than you do with Beyonce or Joe Rogan, just because they happen to have the same skin colour and/or genitals as you.

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[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 40 points 1 year ago (15 children)

My unpopular opinion is that too many people give way, waaaaaayyy too much attention to "correct use of gender pronouns" and they should all just stfu.

I understand why that is a big deal for trans people, because they make their gender the defining aspect of their character. Something I consider a mistake, nobody's main defining characteristic should be their gender.

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[–] argv_minus_one 39 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Cryptocurrency is a scam. Not just certain coins, but the whole concept. It's nothing more than digital tulips.

JavaScript is a bad language, but what's really bad about it is not the language itself but the ecosystem of libraries and tools. Getting just about anything to work is a huge struggle. Rust is much easier to use.

Having children is a horrible idea.

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[–] reverendsteveii@lemm.ee 36 points 1 year ago (2 children)

the military is a cult that tricks children into dying for the wealth of the owner class. they tell you you're defending "freedom" but you're defending the gravest enemies of freedom that currently exist.

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[–] SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social 34 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Blaming slow drivers for your dangerous driving to pass them immediately and dangerously has the same energy as a rapist blaming what the victim was wearing: The other person made me do it. I have no agency over my own reactions.

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[–] renlok@lemmy.ml 34 points 1 year ago (11 children)

Assisted suicide is good for society and if legalised would help fix my countries broken healthcare system

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[–] MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.ml 33 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Trying to get people to change problematic behaviour, language, or opinion through yelling, or shaming is ineffective most of the time. Obviously I can't expect people who belong to minorities to not be angry, not everyone can be Daryl Davis, but if you are white and don't have a personal trauma, you should use more effective methods to correct people's problematic behaviour.

Source: I was able to get my family to stop using the N word, and even my elderly father who doesn't actually remember that it's bad to use the N word has stopped using it thanks to this very simple technique: every time he says that word, stop the conversation and explain why this word is harmful and dangerous to use, don't let them steer the conversation back. Being visibly angry with them will only make them dig in their heels and seek comfort with other people who are racist, making it more difficult to get them out.

Eventually they will subconsciously stop using that word, simply because this causes the conversation to be interrupted every time. So while I don't punish them (can't exactly tell my father to go to his room or something), the repeated inconvenience of having the conversation halted every time will get it in their head eventually.

I think this is the most effective method to correct problematic behaviour in adults.

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[–] blazera@kbin.social 32 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Modern Israel should not have been created.

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[–] SlowNPC@kbin.social 32 points 1 year ago (8 children)
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[–] demesisx@infosec.pub 30 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (11 children)

Bernie would have won had he not been blatantly cheated in the 2016 DNC primary. We’d be in a MUCH different timeline had he won.

Edit: Corbyn was done dirty in the UK too.

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[–] loffiz@feddit.nl 30 points 1 year ago (6 children)

No word is inherently bad, it's all about what you mean and how you use it. Most people have a no-tolerance with a few words though.

For example, all words would be ok in educational purposes.

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[–] beto@lemmy.studio 30 points 1 year ago (29 children)

Everyone should be vegan. It's great for your health, for the environment, and more importantly, it would save more than a trillion (yes, with a T) lives every year.

In a hundred years we'll look back and be ashamed of what we did to animals.

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[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.de 30 points 1 year ago (27 children)

Nobody should have kids, we should just drift off into extinction. Nobody has been able to tell me why that would be a bad thing without using anthropocentric reasoning.

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[–] takoman@lemm.ee 29 points 1 year ago (7 children)

I don't believe in prison for punitive justice. Prions should be used to keep society safe from dangerous people, not punishing them imo.

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[–] Colorcodedresistor@lemm.ee 29 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I think having children when the world is already overflowing with unwanted children is pretty fucking selfish. how about you do humanity a favor and stop for a round or two, eh? maybe pick up all the lost and forgotten children society has strewn across the way.

(only child unwanted by both parents, dont know who my father is. left my mother at 18, but she made sure to remind me how much her life got fucked up because she had me...Currently married to my lovely wife going on 10 years at 2024 and 12 years together total. and we have considered a child. but...i cant stop thinking about the ones already here, unloved. but as a bastard only child with no real parents, i could be bias.)

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[–] Faresh@lemmy.ml 29 points 1 year ago (5 children)

You all look dumb when dancing.

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[–] nothacking@discuss.tchncs.de 28 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (6 children)

Python is just as bad if not worse then JavaScript. The fact that if you misspell a variable name, instead of giving an error like any sane language, Python code will still run, but do something different then it looks like it does, creating a hard to spot bug is just awful. The amount of time I have spent debugging python code only to find a tiny typo that any sane language would have caught before the code even ran is several weeks now, I can't imagine how much collective time has been lost over this, and a few other, horrible languages.

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