Melbourne

Hell yes

Reverse ADHD tax!

I put money in something many months ago with the intention of forgetting about it and finding it later. I have forgotten where I put it which is a start

Sounds like lotsa opportunities to move around the org and gain skills - maybe leadership skills too. Sky is limit here.

"Not obviously bananapants" is a win for week one.

Good vibes are a good sign. Lets hope the size is a benefit rather than a hinderance

Lunch on the first day is a good sign on the culture, making the effort to welcome you.

BEEEEACH!

I put them in as is like a pleb :(

I'm not in the "I have time to peel mushrooms" socio economic bracket lol

Solid choice!! Should be beautiful this morning! Maybe a coffee and a stroll of the Mordy pier? (Psst, you posted this in yesterday's thread)

Wow, that was a real wake up call, thank you!

This was very instructive. Now you know the rules and so do I

Really important message worth reminding everyone about every once in a while. A must-click. Good one.

I did not have kids because of my relationship with my parents. I knew this when I was a kid myself.

My mum often wonders why she has barely a relationship with any of her 5 kids, of which I'm the youngest. However, her eldest is on life support with a couple of days left and she's already declared that she won't be going to the funeral because "you don't know how much she's hurt me!" (yes, I do, now grow the fuck up)

Similar to dumblederp, I saw what my siblings and I went through and decided that along with the fact that I was born without a maternal bone in my body, I wasn't going to risk raising kids and turning out like my parents.

Sorry, not the answer, but also an opportunity to trauma dump.

I am non contact with my father.

What did I do differently?

Always listened. Always asked for opinions. Made sure my daughter knew that her needs and wishes are equal to that of the adults. Made sure she knew I was always there and never ever forgot or went back on my word. Made sure she had good sex education. Lots of pocket money so she had freedom to buy anything she needed. Moved to a good area so she had good opportunities.

So many cuddles, so many I Love You's. No violence or fear.

I lucked out with my parents. Not the warmest household but shit got done. As a kid was all about the garden with the ol' man, and garden / shopping and cooking with mum. Also playing golf as a fam helped. Activities with your kiddo(s) as they grow up I think is pretty key. I don't think they had that so tried to 'undo' that part of their upbringing.

I think the specifics of how you raise your kids is less important than whether or not you respect them as individuals that will change, grow and decide their own direction in life. Toxic relationships between parents and children pretty much all boil down to treating the child as if they are subordinate to your own thoughts and feelings. That might be using a child to try to fill gaps in your life (like having children in the expectation that they will provide you with unconditional love), trying to control what they do for work, who they have relationships with etc.

Being responsive to your child's wants and needs and building a relationship based on that will always work far better than envisaging a relationship you want and trying to fit your child into that vision. The same applies to any relationship really - getting to know each other and working to create a mutually satisfying relationship over time takes both work and openness to knowing each other.

Sooo.. not as bad as it looked..

Me --> 🧥 --> 🚪

Today when I was out n about I was sitting at lights behind a car, in the left lane and I got beeped (more than once) by the dickhead behind me because it wanted to turn left into the main road. I thought it was a joke cos where the fuck am I going? Up this guys clacker so you can attempt to squeeze past in your bucket of shit. I wasn't fooled.

The Mod post is the only things I've seen at all. Hoping the otherside of the planet might deliver soon.