There are certainly some nuggets of truth in there but man is Psych Today just a terrible org.
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What's wrong with it? (Genuine question)
Acknowledging men’s emotions
Wait… we have emotions?
No.,
well that's a relief
i am also wondering this, this thread feels like the goddamn twilight zone
There are some pretty weird-ass comments here, that's for sure! I scrolled, but didn't feel like engaging. I didn't think "saying yes to unwanted sex can be harmful" was a hot take, especially in this community, but... ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Yeah, Psych today is about as credible these days as The View when it comes to psychology research.
As someone who used to think they were a man, and who felt that as a supposed man they had a "role" to fulfil in wanting sex whenever it was an option, I can absolutely back this up. I have caused myself no end of damage because I thought that wanting sex was the default state and I should jump on the opportunity whenever I could.
Sex is great. Lots of sex is great. But it's okay to not want to have sex, and it's not worth the psychological damage to have sex when you don't want to have sex. It can be like sexually assaulting yourself.
TL;DR: the reason is that men are horndogs, and those that for some weird reason want to say “no” are pressured by the Patriarchy and/or Toxic Masculinity to say “yes.”
Did I get the gist of the article right? 🤔