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I'm looking for any examples that you might have encountered and links to them.

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[–] wise_pancake@lemmy.ca 28 points 7 months ago (3 children)

This one, that I just started.

The commenter after me ties their shoelaces very well, and I’m jealous.

[–] Alice 5 points 7 months ago

Ian's Shoelace Site, baby!! I was doing granny knots for years before I found him.

[–] sqw@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

i learned a new shoe-tying technique and try to share it with others when they’re game

[–] Extrasvhx9he@lemmy.today 5 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I'm all ears. I usually just tie mine like a regular square knot

[–] metaStatic@kbin.social 6 points 7 months ago

do the final cross in the opposite direction and they will never accidentally come undone

[–] nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 7 months ago

There's actual a great, short TED talk on tying shoes and the strong form of the typical knot used.

[–] cleanandsunny@literature.cafe 9 points 7 months ago

People seemed to appreciate the conversation in this thread about balancing privacy with the realities of wedding business marketing: https://lemmy.ml/post/7435311

[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 6 points 7 months ago (2 children)

You can peruse my history. I ask a lot of clarifying questions to understand what people mean before I criticize their position.

[–] zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Do you ever get burned out on people not starting out in good faith? Like I used to enjoy back and forth, but a while ago I gave up because the majority are super defensive instead of inquisitive.

[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 1 points 7 months ago

That's exactly why I ask clarifying questions.

Bad faith arguers usually won't answer a question because then they'd have to reveal they're arguing in bad faith. But that ends up being the tell anyway.

There was a recent instance where I asked someone if they really supported free speech, which they arguing for in response to a Canadian policy that would criminalize calling for genocide. Really supporting free speech meant permitting calls for genocide against a group that included them.

They never answeres the question about whether they supported calls for genocide that might include them. I asked them twice.

In that case, it's easy enough to just stop responding to anything they say. They've outed themselves by not participating in the conversation.

[–] Danterious@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Anything you are particularly proud of?

[–] PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.com 5 points 7 months ago

Uhhh not really

[–] fiat_lux@kbin.social 6 points 7 months ago

I had this one the other day, and it was even political

https://sh.itjust.works/comment/9636567

[–] actual_patience@programming.dev 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

https://feddit.de/comment/8071252 https://infosec.pub/comment/5269310 https://programming.dev/comment/5789966

These are just some random threads I saved. As others have pointed out, niche communities are (usually) the least toxic. Applies to any site or chatroom.

[–] Servais@reddthat.com 1 points 7 months ago