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ngl I may prefer lemm.ee, just saying

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[โ€“] anothermember 19 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Beehaw is a quieter experience than most because it has narrower federation, but you do tend to get a better signal to noise ratio since you miss the spammier instances - I like it.

Beehaw also doesn't federate downvotes which I think is an improvement.

[โ€“] deegeese@sopuli.xyz 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Beehaw is such a nice place to visit, but Iโ€™m too much of an asshole to live there.

[โ€“] anothermember 2 points 11 months ago

Posting from a Beehaw account I think does have a psychological effect on me that causes me to naturally tone things down a bit. I think it's been good for me.

[โ€“] inverted_deflector@startrek.website 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah and in addition to that the overall "be(e) nice" rule means that people are generally just a lot more pleasant to be around and less abrasive than what I see in some of the other larger instances.

Only issue is I recently opened another account because theyre leaving lemmy eventually and currently my posts dont federate and all my subscriptions are pending.

[โ€“] anothermember 2 points 11 months ago

Only issue is I recently opened another account because theyre leaving lemmy eventually and currently my posts dont federate and all my subscriptions are pending.

Nothing's concrete yet. I have accounts on several instances for their various advantages, but Beehaw is what I've settled on as my main "default" for now. The Subscribe Pending is a bug, I don't think it affects your posts federating so they're separate issues if that's the case.

[โ€“] JCPhoenix 16 points 11 months ago

I'm enjoying Beehaw. I really haven't looked around at other instances that much, but it's pretty chill here.

[โ€“] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 11 months ago (3 children)
[โ€“] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It's not a cult, I swear! :D

[โ€“] KDE@monyet.cc 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

db0 , i really like your server tbh but my monyet.cc is serving me currently well the fact that you have a photon , tensorrect etc as alternate frontends is kinda cool as well :p thanks man , we as a community appreciate your instance and its c/piracy -fellow pirate

[โ€“] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 11 months ago

That's what I like to hear!

[โ€“] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 11 months ago

Shhh, don't tell

[โ€“] stmcld@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Hehe yep

Edit: and i just realised i posted this from my other account and not my dbzer0 account lol. But point still stands

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[โ€“] QuentinCallaghan@sopuli.xyz 13 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Was waiting for an instance admin lol

[โ€“] MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 7 points 11 months ago

He's right. No bias, I swear.

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[โ€“] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

lemmy.sdf.org when it works; federation there is kinda fucked right now, so ~~I'm on lemmy.today for now.~~ I accidentally posted it from SDF. Comment if you can see this.

SDF has an extensive track record (* much longer than I have been alive*) of providing systems for the public good. If federation gets fixed (and it probably will eventually), I'll be back on SDF.

Additionally, I generally don't want the set of people I can connect with to be technically limited, like at all. Yes that includes "all the bad people" according to your (and my) individual worldview. If they're going to exist, I would prefer to have advanced notice of the danger they pose. If you suck, I will block you.

I'm not against moderated or curated instances, and for most people that is probably the way to go, but it's not what I personally need. Yes, this means that I occasionally get wild shit when I choose to scroll through All. Yes, that means I get various shades of genocide apologists and weird bigots, again when I choose not to browse by Local or Subscribed. That's why I'm subscribed to a bunch of cool, moderated communities. I choose the content I see.

That is the approach I prefer for myself. Again, I understand that it's not for everyone.

As far as instances where I'm not (yet) a member, lemmy.dbzer0.com is my favorite by far. Also while I don't have any communities on their instance, the startrek.website people seem to always have something interesting to say.

[โ€“] thespezfucker@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

Personally I am pretty bias towards lemm.ee, mostly because it's the instance I joined when starting out. I mostly do all because i personally don't prefer using local communities. Don't really care about federation, just like using lemmy either way

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[โ€“] TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Lemm.ee. I like the defederation policy, and in my experience the community and its admins have always been very responsive.

[โ€“] thespezfucker@lemm.ee 6 points 11 months ago

lemm.ee fans RISE UP!!!

[โ€“] Krydex@slrpnk.net 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[โ€“] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 11 months ago

SLRPNK best instance

[โ€“] kate@lemmy.uhhoh.com 7 points 11 months ago

I like mine because it is mine :)

[โ€“] TadeuszBonawentura@kbin.social 7 points 11 months ago (2 children)

mander.xyz is my favorite. Love and subscribed to the most of the communities it have.

[โ€“] joyjoy@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

For some weird reason, I can't access that instance from work. Probably DNS related.

[โ€“] averyminya 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

A lot of "weird" TLDs are just automatically blocked for security.

Like, realistically what site would your business/work utilize utilitytoolsales(.)xyz? Chances seem higher that would be a bogus site to harvest information.

Unfortunately fun social networks get affected lol

[โ€“] Sal@mander.xyz 3 points 11 months ago

Yeah, I found out only after choosing that domain name... This TLD also gets penalized by the automatic e-mail spam detectors (like SpamAssassin). I wouldn't pick the ".xyz" TLD if I were picking today ๐Ÿ˜…

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[โ€“] Lexam@lemmy.ca 7 points 11 months ago

As an American I prefer lemmy.ca

[โ€“] Oha@lemmy.ohaa.xyz 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

lemmy.ohaa.xyz, cause its mine :D

[โ€“] thespezfucker@lemm.ee 5 points 11 months ago

now THATS the spirit!

[โ€“] DeathWearsANecktie@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Lemm.ee seems pretty okay.

I don't care much about instances though, I just use Lemmy like it's Reddit and scroll through the home page and my subscriptions

[โ€“] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

lemmy.blahaj.zone because im biased

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[โ€“] MrShankles@reddthat.com 3 points 11 months ago

My main is reddthat.com

Clear and open admins; smaller instance with room to grow; it's my personal favorite

[โ€“] SuiXi3D@kbin.social 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)
[โ€“] atocci@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

That's the spirit!

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[โ€“] JimboDHimbo@lemmy.ca 2 points 11 months ago

Hexbear. and .ca

[โ€“] gnuplusmatt@reddthat.com 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

startrek.website definitely punches above its weight, was my first account

But this alt on reddthat.com I use more because it has down voting disabled and it keeps me more zen

[โ€“] thespezfucker@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

pretty cool that there's whole instances about stuff like Star Trek, really cool!

[โ€“] binboupan@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

lemm.ee, my own instance got executed by Oracle Cloud haha

[โ€“] thespezfucker@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago (2 children)
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[โ€“] danhakimi@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm liking kbin more for the web UI than anything, but it's had some weird federation issues, so I might move one day.

I used lemmy.ml back when the lemmyverse was pretty much just pro-Russia tankies, it wasn't that great.

[โ€“] thespezfucker@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

wait, lemmy instance can have custom ui's?!?

[โ€“] jayknight@lemmy.ml 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Lemmy and kbin are two different pieces of software that both implement the activitypub protocol in a way that they can federate with each other. So it's not just a different UI on top of Lemmy backend (which is also possible).

[โ€“] Shadow@lemmy.ca 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Yes, several instances offer this. Come to lemmy.ca and look in our sidebar for a few examples.

Kbin is a totally different app though.

[โ€“] mexicancartel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 11 months ago

Dbzer0 yeah. It have served well without any downtime for me. Also piracy friendly. Startrek.website people seems chill

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