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Another reason to leave Reddit: I forgot how hostile it can be (self.chat)

submitted 1 year ago by xray to c/chat

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I've mostly left reddit and switched to beehaw, but I posted on somewhat of a niche tech-related subreddit today since there really isn't a community for that here yet. And wow, I got instantly downvoted twice and the first comment response was rude and hostile. All I posted was a feature suggestion for software that I thought would be useful and that a good amount of people would like based on other feedback I've heard. This is not the sort of topic that should be controversial or aggravating, and it wasn't like I made an ignorant post suggesting a feature that already existed or otherwise wasn't well researched.

This type of instantly hostile response has happened numerous times on reddit for various different topics, but I just haven't posted for a while, so I forgot just how shitty it can feel. It makes me really appreciate how friendly and respectful the community is here on Beehaw and on Mastodon. People seem to have good faith in one another similar to how the internet used to be in the old days.

Have you had similar experiences with Reddit and similarly opposite experiences here on Beehaw/Lemmy?

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[–] Plume 23 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Come to think of it, I too, notice the difference. How nicer people are on here.

Here's another thing that I don't miss about Reddit. I am glad there is no downvotes on Beehaw, there is not this constant passive aggressive downvoting which was really frustrating.

But yeah, I guess that what I don't miss the most is it's comment section. I don't miss the constant hostility for no reason. I don't miss the whole comments section being filled with masturbating monkeys every time there is a women in a picture. And I know, it sounds like I'm a fucking white knight or whatever, but that used to bother the hell out of me!

Every time, EVERY TIME you would see a photo with a woman as the subject of the photo, the common section would be unbearable to read...

Same thing, I also don't miss seeing a video or a picture with a black person on it and seeing that the comments section has been locked. And I don't even have to wonder why, I know why.

I don't miss the frets that are political in nature, talking about things like racism or queerphobia, going on there, and just seeing a locked comment section, with giant, sprawling discussions, of just deleted comments after deleted comments, with entire threads being nuked.

...I guess I just don't miss the bigotry and people being all around assholes.

You know, I'm writing this, and I'm just realizing how horrendous that place was, actually.

I guess, overtime, you end up getting used to it, or maybe, just getting numb to it. And you should never get number to seeing stuff like that, that's not normal. Bigotry, people acting like assholes, it should be outrageous, it shouldn't be just something that you're so used to seeing that it makes your roll your eyes. But I know that here, when I see a bad take, when I see someone behaving like an ass, it sticks out, it jumps out of me. I see it immediately, and I get frustrated with it. Because I am not numbed to it, because it isn't common here.

Maybe I am now in a bubble, in a safe space. Maybe. Screw everything else, I'm not leaving. I like it here. Real life is already stressful enough for me to be annoyed by people on Reddit.

I thought I would miss it. I don't. I haven't returned ever since I made an account here. The only times when I check read it, is if I'm looking for something, like, I have an issue with a game, something like that, I look it up on my search engine, and often, I would get linked to a Reddit thread about it. But that's it. Other than this, I don't go on it, I don't interact with it, I don't log into it. And I don't miss it.

This was like leaving social media for me, when I left Twitter and all of that, good fucking riddance.

[–] chaoticPuppies 6 points 1 year ago

I uninstalled RiF about a month ago. I needed to find some documemtation for an Assembly project so I checked the subreddit sidebar on desktop.

My god. It's just a toxic shithole of bots and perpetual rage posts. I'm so happy to be anywhere else. This place is and the Lemmy instance programming.dev is too. I'm on Tildes and Bluesky because, why not? I'm not hesitant to post or comment at all anymore.

It was like leaving an abusive relationship I didn't know I was in.

[–] baggins 3 points 1 year ago

This. I used to be embarrassed sometimes as I knew what the comments would be like. Why any woman would include herself in a photo on there was beyond me. It was like they were setting themselves up for a hard time.

And I don't miss it either. Beehaw is a breath of fresh air. Long may it continue.

[–] dolphone 2 points 1 year ago

Maybe I am now in a bubble, in a safe space. Maybe. Screw everything else, I’m not leaving. I like it here. Real life is already stressful enough for me to be annoyed by people on Reddit.

I think reddit has, in a way, the worst of real and digital worlds. As in the real world, there's a lot of people who react, let's say, not nicely; the digital angle provides anonimity and distance, which emboldens people. Combined with the fact that the top upvoted comments in reddit tend to be non sequitur jokes, and you get a lot of people trying to one up each other in their snarkiness.

[–] fracture 1 points 1 year ago

yeah, i noticed since leaving reddit and coming here in the last month or so, my tolerance for that kind of bullshit has gone down. and that's a good thing, i think it's better than being so exposed to it that you become numb. inclines you more towards action