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I'm just tired I wish I could come out (vent) (self.lgbtq_plus)

submitted 1 year ago by sleepybisexual to c/lgbtq_plus

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My parents have been giving a lot of mixed signals so indon't know if I can come out or not.

On one hand they don't talk shit and don't get pissy about pride flags and stuff and actually seem supportive. On the other they are extremely religious. To the point where they get pissed when I don't want to go to church. Wish I had a clear answer. Extended family is even worse. Everyone is extremely

I don't even know why I bother. Everything has been crashing down recently. My family is probably unaccepting. I'm pretty sure my boyfriend left me. Don't know why I keep going. I'm just sick and tired

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[–] Gork 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't know how tolerant your parents actually are, but I would advise caution here. You're still a dependent on them and they could potentially try to (in worse case) kick you out of the home or (less worse case but still bad) force you to go to some conversion therapy where they try to make you straight, which is ridiculous and harmful.

As a dependent, they also hold all of the financial levers. They could withhold support if you want to go to college. They could not help you get a car. They could try to coerce you in other ways (my house, my rules).

As much as it pains me to say it, it is best to stay in the closet for a few years until you are financially self-sufficient, whether that is through a job of your own or through a scholarship to college.

For your relationship with your boyfriend, I can't add much more to the advice others here have given, but it's ok to recognize the sucky feeling. It'll get better with time regardless of the ultimate outcome.

[–] sleepybisexual 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How will things get better? He was all I had left. Now all my problems are so much worse. I don't know why I keep on living

[–] Gork 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

People can let you down sometimes. But don't see it as a reflection of you or your own self-worth. There are other men (and women, enbies etc) that you can be friends and more, just need to be yourself is all.

[–] sleepybisexual 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm just confused. I don't know if he still gives a shit about me or what is going on. I don't have any answers. All I know is him leaving like that really messed me up

[–] Sas 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yeah breakups are hard and seem very hopeless. It might seem like there's no one like him and you can't live without him but eventually you'll learn to do just that. The timescale varies from person to person.

For example my best friend for more than 15 years ghosted me after i told her that i have developed a crush for her even tho i didn't expect her to like me back that way because she's straight. Even tho ghosting is terrible it took me half a year to be able to confidently say i wouldn't accept her friendship back.

Sorry for that story but what i wanted to say is things will mellow out for you even though they are very turbulent right now.

[–] sleepybisexual 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I hope things get better I'm really lost right now. Family's full of shit. I just want some fucking respect