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Uh, I'm not affected. What's there to pay attention to? Not one single instance have I had, in all of 10+ jobs in my resume, where my LGBTQ status was put into question because it was never a matter on the table to begin with. I never brought it up. I never mentioned or talked about who I was with or seeing. I don't drop hints, nothing. I didn't have nosy people, which sounds like what you had and other people.
Anytime I was fired or penalized, it was because of policy violations that amounted to insubordination or just performance in general. Not once, ever, has it been because of my identity. You really must be living in places where you're running into these issues all of the time, because I don't.
Because if it's an issue at all, it's a risk for you. It's cool that you don't know anyone nosy now, but if the wrong person finds out you're LGBT, you'll be affected. And you having a risk that cis people don't have is already an effect.
Good for you to have that privilege. Note how it's not an issue for you because of your region, not because you manage to keep it secret (which btw is an effect on you)