Was having this conversation with some new friends earlier and was curious. When did you guys figure out your sexuality/identity or whatever? Was there a person that helped you or a particular moment or event?

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[–] strangerloop 7 points 1 year ago

I think my first hunch was when I watched V for Vendetta at age 12 and the sub-story about the lesbian couple really struck a cord in me. At that point I didn't think that I was like them, but at the same time their harsh fate made me really afraid something similar was gonna happen to me. The experience was pretty confusing, and I eventually pushed it out of my mind.

Then I started 7th grade, and I became more confused because my friends were talking about cute guys and I did not get what the fuss was about. The final realisation came when I started 8th grade, so around when I was 14, because I developed a massive crush on my best friend at the time. Nothing came of it, but after that I knew I was definitely attracted to girls and not guys.

Around 16 I started realising my gender identity wasn't cis either, but I only cleared up that conundrum last year at 25. After many conversations with my partner, I came to accept that I'm agender.

It's all been quite the journey and I think I may still change along the way.