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point number one is perfectly reasonable but has been weaponized by your enemies.
I understand what's going on when people dog pile on me for asking a naive question because it's so often the starting point for bad faith actors, but many people just see the community as hostile and unwilling to alleviate ignorance.
be kind, don't do their work for them.
Do as you like, but don't imply that it is necessary to be kind to those who question LGBT+ people's right to equity. It is you who are working for them when you imply we will lose allyship by not being nice enough.
...which is itself a bigoted belief. No one who approaches in good faith legitimately believes this. You've been deceived.
It's fine to request to be kind to those sincerely asking questions they want to know about, but once it's known and clear that the person is a troll that's "just asking questions", there's no need to be nice anymore.
If your question is one that trolls ask all' the time then maybe it's already been answered somewhere you won't have to freshly upset people to get to. Like... Idunno, DuckDuckGo or something?
If you know you're going to offend people then maybe work on your own ignorance a little instead of just showing up and throwing very answered questions at me ('cause who's it gonna be but some random queer critter(s)?) like it's my job to sit and tutor you. In fact, you could find someone who would do that but no, you're gonna come to some trans hangout or stream or a zone chat in a game I'm playing and I'm gonna see "hay lul if ur a women then y u still lik girl?!?" and tell you to go fuck yourself.
...Okay I got a little carried away and maybe your "naive questions" aren't that bad but at the very least I doubt you're gonna get dogpiled much (just don't talk to hexb*ars or the like: they dogpile every single thing they see) for questions that make sense to ask.
tl;dr: If you're bothering to ask heavily-answered questions, ask a search engine or Wikipedia or something first. We don't have the time nor energy to individually tutor everyone who only cares to ask and impose rather than listen and absorb.