trufax

Thank you so much kind stranger! Hearing positive anecdotes helps and so does being heard! I really appreciate you taking the time to spread some kindness and compassion.

I believe you but the thought that Denver is worse in this department than where I am (Nashville) is baffling. It’s also horrible here, my area doesn’t even have sidewalks. :(

That’s fair! I’m just new to the fediverse and was initially worried about accidentally winding up in some veiled Parler weirdness. Definitely not the case, loving lemmy so far!

Thank you for the context! This is all comforting

Right, what if? What’s the worst case scenario? You get passed over for something that was already not guaranteed?

Friend, I don’t have the answers, but just want to remind you that you aren’t alone. And I won’t ever stop fighting, I don’t have it in me to give up.

I hear you, whole heartedly, and I wish I knew what more I could do (if anything) to help. It’s so discouraging to see how effective the propaganda has become. I’m so tired of waiting on those prone to fear based rhetoric to die off. We can’t effectively persuade so many people in a timely fashion.

I was raised to know spinach as the awful canned stuff. Thought I hated spinach for years. Found out in my twenties I love it when its not garbage from a can.

It recently saved me a lot of headache with finally ditching a subscription that the parent company made nearly impossible to cancel. After months of ignored emails and frustrating run around calls, I set up a virtual card, added it as a payment method, then deleted my real card info. The card was active for long enough for it to take as a legitimate CC, and then immediately closed. Those fuckers have emailed me (and snail mailed me) a million times trying to get me to update my payment method, lol.

You don’t have to get complicated, there’s a few key things in my experience:

Most importantly, sunscreen. One you will actually use every day. Formulas have gotten so much better in recent years, so there’s lots of great ones out there. When picking a sunscreen, the first choice is chemical or mineral. Personally, I live in the south and tend to run warm and sweat easily, and I have found that chemical formulas are fine on my body, but they get into & sting my eyes as soon as my face gets dewy in the heat. So I use a Supergoop! mineral formula called matte screen. It has a texture like those powder gel primers and a mild beige tint (minerals can leave a white cast.)

Cleanser: does your cleanser leave your skin feeling dry, greasy, taut, soft? Try different formulas-watery/micellar water, gels, cream based, oil cleansers, experiment until you find a good everyday cleanser, and one that’s good for washing off stubborn makeup.

Moisturizer: having a relatively light one for everyday use and a thicker or richer product for the occasions when skin needs extra moisture may not be necessary, but it feels that way for my skin. Which ones to use is a personal thing you can only learn from trial & error, but understanding your skin type and common issues will help guide you.

The only anti-aging item (other than sunscreen) that is evidence backed: Rx retinols. Don’t waste your $ on OTC retinol/retinoid products. If you want to try retinol, getting a prescription for tretinoin (or something similar) is pretty easy. (I used the Nurx app and dodged the annoyance of an in person visit.)

That’s pretty much it, unless you feel you need a toner. Masks, serums/actives, peels, these things have all gotten trendy, but they’re optional, and are best worked in after establishing the foundations above and learning what your skin isn’t going to react poorly to.

Green Room

Oh I love that bold hatching technique! You are masterful with light and color. Love it.