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I'm not a heavy gamer, but I'm content with Manjaro. I don't dual boot, though I do have access to an older computer with Windows 10. I haven't had cause to use it for games, though.

I'm guessing what they're referring to is that it waits to fetch the next page of the timeline until relatively "late". There's a definite hitch in scrolling for me when it's fetching more posts.

That said, I'm perfectly satisfied with Jerboa.

Though not "news". Studies have been reaching the same conclusion for decades.

This argument doesn't make much sense and is honestly weirdly condescending to unhoused people. Donating money to an organization is almost surely the most efficient way to use that money, but it doesn't follow that you shouldn't give money to individuals. Unless you are really truly going to go home and send that $5 you didn't give to a person to an organization immediately, that's $5 that's not helping anyone.

There's definitely an argument that organized giving should be directed to organizations (though folks deep into mutual aid would question whether something organized enough to have executives is the right place, but that's more a philosophical question, I think), but when I give the singles in my wallet to someone of the subway or whatever, that's not organized giving.

I'm quite drawn to the ritual aspects of religion but there's another part of me finds it all hopelessly silly.

I realise it's kind of unhelpful to say "labels don't matter", but... labels don't matter. Or, perhaps more precisely, they come with time.

A lot of the time, as a (presumed) cis person, you get a trans 101 that is really simplified, where genders always fit into neat boxes and everyone "just knows" which of those boxes they fit into and they care very much about being in that box. Even the non-box, being non-binary, gets made into a box. But really, gender is this whole universe of possibilities, and we each have our own. We live in societies that clump that infinite array of possibility into two, or if we're lucky, three categories, but that doesn't mean your own individual gender fits neatly into one of those categories, nor that your gender is just like that of people who ended up in the same category as you.

You have the freedom to figure out what your own gender looks like, to figure out how you do gender. That can mean experimenting with clothing, makeup, names, pronouns, whatever feels interesting to explore. You might be trans. You might be a gender non-conforming cis person. You might be a cis person who's just not particularly strongly gendered and going with the flow. But you get to define how you do gender and if you figure out that that comes with a label that's useful to you, great. If it doesn't come with a label, it's a bit tiresome, to be honest, but you've not done something wrong.

It's weird. There was a time when I would desperately read any trans memoir I could get my hands on, and then by the time my transition was "done" (inasmuch as we can ever call transition "done"), I had moved to really not caring about other people's trans narratives, especially as they tend to be written for cis consumption. But I actually do want to read this one. Perhaps because he's roughly my age.

It depends a lot on the religion. A few are probably positive signs (but then you probably wouldn't be asking), many are real wildcards that are hard to generalize and some are strong negative signs.

Russia used to be one of few countries that was a destination for phalloplasty, mostly for people in eastern Europe (it was hard-to-impossible to find information in English, but the English-language transmasculine internet knew it was a thing). This was when US people largely went to Serbia.

There's very much a whole theory/literature around queer time (see the reference to Muñoz in the article) -- being queer frees you from this sort of linear heteronormative progression through stages of life. This JSTOR blog post might be of interest. The argument isn't that this sort of non-linearity is specific to queer people (see the bit in the JSTOR post tying the economic precarity of millenials to the notion of "adulting"), but rather that it is an extremely common queer experience precisely because the markers of "progression" through life are heavily rooted in hetero- and cisnormativity.

Adding on to this, you can find stats about high rates of "desistence" among children and youth with GID(C) diagnoses (I'm not sure what that become in DSM-V when GID became "Gender Dysphoria"). However, these stats need to be understood in the context of what the criteria for GID(C) are--they're incredibly broad. Any mildly gender-non-conforming child can fit the criteria if their parents dislike their gender non-conformity (there's a quasi-conspiracy theory that it was a backdoor to "treating" "pre-homosexual" kids after the removal of homosexuality from the DSM). It's no shock that most of these kids don't grow up to be trans--they mostly weren't making a statement about their gender identity in the first place!

I was thinking more solo board games -- I have roughly no TTRPG experience, though I'd be willing to try. (I last played D&D probably 20 years ago in high school. It was one of those things that I felt I was supposed to be into, but, when push came to shove, it wasn't my jam. Now, that was also true of computer games and I like some now.)