same, i made a post the other day and it didn't appear on the other instances i checked
one thing that helped me (and still does) is ignoring labels and thinking about what you want to do. like, what pronouns do you want, how do you want to dress, what do you want to be called. i found it easier to think about that and instead using that as a guide to finding a label that fits (or skipping the label entirely)
i'm a fountain pen user. while you can use single use cartridges, there are also refillable cartridges and pens that just have a reservoir to fill manually with a bottle of ink. i have a refillable cartridge but honestly i prefer just filling a disposable cartridge with a syringe.
might be harder to use a refillable something if this is for a child.
and i'm not sure about how wasteful refillable ballpoint pen is vs fountain pen cartridges. maybe one cartridge for ballpoint lasts longer but i'm not sure.
i update my arch like once a week when i remember to. usually get no problems.
i haven't updated my android phone since mid 2022 because i don't trust them to not ruin something.
and i don't get a choice with my windows desktop