SorryforSmelling

i failed out of uni so take my advice with a huge grain of salt. but its ok to fail or rescedule. as long as you persist ofc. I failed some class and the shame made me fail more. reality is pretty much everyone has parts of their studys that are boring or incredible hard. and pretty mich everyone fails some stuff. Just make a plan, figure out what made you fail last time (if it happends) and try to prevent that next time.

tl;dr: dont be like me. be open and honest to your friends, professors and family. and you will make it :)

there are offices that offer these services offline. if you wanna do it on your own youll need to request a lot of acces to city archives. At least in some countrys, citys keep many infos. including if someone moves there ect.

So if you know where your grandparents used to be born, go there, and maybe you find infos about your grand grandparents. and then its just a game to hunt for infos. See if you can find your anchestors names in unis, or companys or something.

I heard its quite tedious and takes years

its actually a real rabit hole to see which cultures use however many days to refer into the future and past. Since the use of unified calenders its been declining. few centuries ago it wasnt unusual to have words for like "five days ago". and some languages actually perserved that!

Dont ask me for specifics tho. its been many moons since i did that deep dive ^^

ok this feels like a real hot take. but i am somewhat glad about this. in my country telegram has the reputation to be the nazi (and sometimes the pedo-) app. so i am not unhappy those people online activity can be used against them in court. That beeing said i can respect people who feel otherwise.

ereyesterday is the day before yesterday. as a german i am used to refer to two days in the past and future without useing weekdays.

was? ich habe das jetzt oft gelesen und ich verstehe dich nicht. ich habe keinen kommentar über linke oder linke werte gemacht? und ich habe auch kein statement dazu verfasst wer für oder gegen solche werte wäre. Um mich vielleicht anders aus zu drücken. ich finde konservative oder religiöse extremesiten gehören in dieselbe schublade. egal mit welchem religiösen oder kulturellen hintergrund.

mich persönlich stört es momentan reaktionen von menschen zu sehen welche den islam verantworlich für die attacke machen, welche bei einen angriff von einem christen nicht die religion beschuldigen würden.

hard agree. Das fällt für mich in dieselbe kategorie wie ein angriff eines nazis. es sind konservative xenophobe extremisten.

Naja, abgesehen davon, dass der Tipp sich nicht bestätigte (die fesgenommenen hatte keinen Haftbefehl gegen sich) und Schusswaffen eingesetzt wurden.

Ich stimme zu, dass der post faules whataboutism ist. Aber es stimmt schon, dass öffentlichwirksam rechtsextremisten weniger aufmerksamkeit und "gewalt" abbekommen als linksextremisten. Was etwas schade ist wenn doch immer versucht wird beide seiten als gleich dar zu stellen.

quelle: https://www.deutschlandfunk.de/festgenommene-personen-sind-nicht-die-raf-terroristen-staub-und-garweg-100.html

I think i was in a similar spot before (eventhough it lasted way less years). the problem i realised was, that i put my former partner on a podest. they were my godess/queen or whatever. i realised thats because i was romantacising it way more than it was in reality. I did meet them again after a few years and they seem to have changed. thats when i realised maybe they never changed but i didnt see them for who they are back then with youthfull naivity and rosecolourentainted glasses.

i started to change my mindset, in the sense that i dont need them or any partner for my perfect life. i just need me. i am the most important person in my life now, as it should be. it took time, it took therapy, but i got there and life is better without feeling dependent on such (at least partly) imaginary things.

i hope things turn around for you, and you can enjoy the future. as you said the past cant be changed, but the future can.

Edit: typos

Edit2: my wife has adhd and i love her dearly. just as a reminder that you are lovable too the way you are.

Yeah i have basicly no filter. especially audio wise. i listen to all the stuff all the time. and selective hearing is also bad. whatever is loudest, is what i hear the most. sometimes i am envious of people who are able to blend sounds out. sometimes its quite usefull tho ^^ like i dont have to be in the kitchen or the basement to hear when water is boiling or the washing mashine is done. so i guess there are some positives.

THANK YOU! you out into words what i have been struggleing so much to explain. i am diagnosed with social anxiety but i dont feel its quite fitting. i suspect heavily to be autistic, and i relate to your number 2. a lot. i mainly feel anxiety because i know i perform worse. all out of a sudden i cant do things i can do well normally and am quite proficent in, just because someone watches me do it or is just in the same room. im so focused on them and what might go on inside them. this makes spending time doing stuff with other often hard if im not hyperfixating.

ill bring this to my next therapy appointment.

can we also talk about the length of the arms of the person in the back?