MadgePickles

I'm not being the change I want to see in the world for sure when I say this but I'm definitely scared to be "out" in any way regarding mental health struggles at work. The closest I've gotten is talking about anxiety and stress burnout, which I've been very careful to do in corporate-speak. I just feel like I can't risk being seen as "at risk" of not being able to handle my work, even if that means I'm more at risk of that happening than if I was actually being supported. 😭

I understand the intention behind when people say that "the doom and glom attitude is harmful to the fight". I've heard it many times. But it's kind of like telling a depressed person to just be happy. It's like, oh wow never considered that k thanks I'm cured now /s. It's just like hey fuck you for being depressed you're killing the planet - it doesn't do a while lot to help. I think you're right of course. I still don't know how to stop being overwhelmed and depressed by it all.

I contribute to an FSA but my job does not bc they're dumb in that regard, so I should have some funds in there as I haven't been going to therapy all year basically despite thinking I would be and planning my contributions to include a copay for that. Buy I still think it will be several hundred out of pocket which I'm not sure I'll be able to do as my savings got decimated this spring. I'm mostly just enraged that this isn't covered more by insurance and it's kicking my justice sensitivity rage into gear. I figured posting might be illustrative for those seeking a diagnosis and or those complaining about the rate of self diagnosis.

I appreciate the pep talk. I'm an engineer in water resources and do my best to help where I can. Sometimes I have outbursts on the Internet and sometimes I fall into frighteningly deep depression. I removed my ability to have children in my terror of bringing life into a the world so dark. So it's not one or the other -be angry and do nothing or have hope and work towards a better future. I'm very angry and very frightened and very jaded... And I'm doing what I can to hopefully prove myself wrong. I would very much like to be wrong. I don't have much hope most days and do believe the planet would be much better off of humans were at least much reduced in number. But I have loved ones and empathy for strangers, as well as a sense of self preservation so I don't relish the thought of suffering. Things can be more than one thing at the same time. I'm not sure how to develop hope, and I'm not sure how people like yourself still carry any, but I have the kind of steadfast resolve to help my fellow humans reduce their suffering at the end. There's a great deal of good that humans can do as well, art, music, stories, love. Those are the threads that keep me bobbing close to the surface. But yeah, I avoid the news almost entirely except for a few trusted sources and what I can't help but run across on Lemmy, etc. I'm too sensitive clearly

Easy to say, harder to do

Indeed. I'm often overwhelmed by my feelings of fear and anger. Reading this gave me such a sense of futility, like wow I must be destined to die a slow and painful death of cancer, if poverty or civil uprising doesn't get me first. Discussion seems silly at this point. Capitalism has sealed our fate, there's little we can do to protect ourselves and our loved ones in this environment. Everyone should be just as angry. To not be this angry one must be dissociating... Which is what I'll go back to now until the next article wakes up my fear and anger again.

Rather negative lol

Arrogant fucking humans. This story plays out every time. And they want to blot out the sun to control climate change... We deserve everything we get for our hubris. I can't wait for humanity to collapse we are a scourge

I love Natalie Wynn and Abigail Thorn, they both put out some of the finest philosophical content and contemporary analysis in existence. I watched everything I could find.

Define flirtation? How do you separate it from just having a nice conversation with someone? I'm also not sure how the ambiguity of interest when talking to someone is related to the conversation about consent surrounding sexual activities.

The law also doesn't criminalize consensual sexual activity between similarly aged minors. Certainly not a couple 17yo's. Sipping wine doesn't mean you can't drive a car so it doesn't incapacitate you from making a consensual sexual decision. Besides the fact that the law is not really what we're talking about here. The law will always be imperfect. We're talking about being real here. Being a real human being who sees other people as human beings and wants to do the right thing.

And to your last point, I can't speak to different cultures. But I would be against sexual acts that don't confirm enthusiastic consent no matter what culture someone is from. Ultimately your language comes across like that of someone who has studied dating academically without much practical experience. I'm not really sure what your point is after all of this. That we shouldn't worry about consent from our partners? It feels a little trollish to expect anyone to just be like yeah ok

If you don't get an enthusiastic consent, this person is not ready for sexual activity with you. Whether that be because they aren't ready for sexual activity with you, or they are not emotionally mature enough to know not to play hard to get games. Our society may have taught them that playing hard to get is appropriate or even important - if not their parents then look to basically every rom com ever made 🙄, but it's 2023 and a half now and it's past time for our culture to grow up. Playing hard to get, saying no when you really want to say yes is not appropriate. The correct response to this behavior is to not engage with this person.

I would question if the commenter here talking about the numbers of women he has met engaging in these behaviors is being fully honest. If yes, Expect better of your potential partners.

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Never ever ever ever ever give your bosses more information than they need. "I have a personal appointment that cannot be rescheduled" "I'm not comfortable discussing that"