Just keep being as open as you can and having conversations. Provide differing view points in a positive and open light. Make sure she sees other sides, talk things through, why do they hold that opinion? Kids are way more socially intelligent than we give them credit for and being able to have those conversations from a young age can help through all of life. Also provide data and sources, teach through example how to check your sources for bias. Five might be a little young for that but start early building good rational thinking skills.
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How do I get her to see other sides while in the closet. I want to show our side before the church of sleezy bastards get a word in
Child accessible media - most modern animated shows for children have LGBTQ+ rep and will likely fly under the radar of even watchful parents. You can also have discussions with her to help frame things more appropriately if you're around when someone presents a bigoted opinion you can make small remarks like 'that doesn't seem very loving to me'. You could also ask accepting religious denominations like the universal life church how to best help a kid, they probably have a bunch of resources available.
Any examples? She's currently into most nick Jr and Disney Jr. She currently likes bluey. I need recommendations so I can start taking action. Parents aren't very watchful
I'm no expert on children's programming, but my partner likes watching it. Pro-LGBTQ+ shows (according to him) include Craig of the Creek, Stephen Universe, Adventure Time, and Owl House. Cartoon Network ends up being more loose about LGBTQ+ representation than Disney, though some shows on Disney have had a lot of wink-wink-this-is-queer stuff.
I would probably get into the habit of teaching her to question things she's told. A big problem I faced as I got older is the unquestioning acceptance of blatantly false "truths" that took me a while to re-evaluate. Learning critical thinking goes a loooooong way.
Thanks. I am teaching then critical thinking.
I'm not particularly into children's programming, but I'm sure there are plenty of other fellow queers in here who are and can make recommendations. Best of luck!
I've never personally watched Steven Universe, but my understanding (supported by my boyfriend who did watch it) is that the queer rep comes in three categories:
- Members of an all-female alien species have romantic relationships with each other. Aspects of these relationships are allegorical for challenges faced by queer people (for example, the "purist" aliens persecute the romantic aliens because of their relationships), but the characters in-universe don't explicitly acknowledge the relationships as queer.
- Word-of-god from the creator that is not explicitly acknowledged in the text - for example, that a character is nonbinary.
- Under-the-radar references that would be easily missed by a conservative who didn't know what to look for.
For that reason, Steven Universe might be an easier sell for conservative parents, especially for your sister. (I could see some parents getting upset at their son watching a "girly" show - presumably that's not an issue for you here.)
I've watched all of Owl House and loved it. Spoilers below about the nature of the queer representation, for those who want to watch it (which I highly recommend!).
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The earliest representation I remember is a few episodes in where a mainish character mentions her two dads, which everyone treats as very normal. They don't come up often, but you can't forget about them either. Later on in the second season (I believe), the main character starts a same-gender relationship that continues to the end of the series and is much more visible on screen (hugging, kissing). I don't remember the characters specifically talking about the queerness of the relationship very much, but they do come out as bi in a montage in season 3. Mentioning it because if your parents heavily monitor her media consumption, that might be a riskier bet.
Thank you. I hope I find some soon I need to start within the next month or so
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