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Following the spirit of spreading across the Fediverse (and because my main instance is down so many times, because diverse reasons) I'm intrigued about the joining instance process, because I honestly don't know what criteria to have in order to join another one if I ever want to do it.

That made me curious of how you decided to join?

I firstly join to lemmy.fmhy.ml thanks to Spez and a Reddit post from FMHY subreddit, then the tragedy occurred, then I joined to lemmy.world which is/was my main one because I pictured it like a good home, then lemmy.fmhy.net revived and I am with them too, but seems like they are in a bit of trouble with the server, finally now I am in lemm.ee, but only because I just wanted another backup, not because I searched for it especially (also it was mentioned in a comment about smaller instances and one user from here throw a joke to not join here because it sucks so that way the server would be more stable, so yeah, I joined).

To be clear I am not in search for yet another instance (that sounds like a good instance name to be fair), I just want to know how the deciding process is for you, is it just random? Is it because of personal tastes?

I couldn't care less about NSFW stuff, I don't search for it specifically, but my day won't be ruined if I see a tit.

I like gaming, tech, Linux, SBC gaming, emulation, macOS, Android stuff etc (yeah how original) should I look for an instance dedicated to that if I ever want to join yet another one? Because I see topics like this in almost any instance.

I read you lemmings!

EDIT: BTW the migration process has been easier for me thanks to LASIM, so I wouldn't be scared if I ever want/have to migrate again.

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[โ€“] Solaris1789@jlai.lu 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Im french (and i like smaller instances that just work) We're a small community grouped around a few local sublemmies and i really like it that way

[โ€“] Thedogspaw@midwest.social 6 points 1 year ago

Midwest.social because I live in wisconsin

[โ€“] variants@possumpat.io 6 points 1 year ago

Thought the domain was funny and the owner is a pretty cool person that be let me start a community

[โ€“] flameguy21@lemm.ee 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I was on world but people are assholes and kept ddos-ing it and heard lemm.ee was pretty good. Can confirm lemm.ee is pretty good. Bonus: beehaw doesn't defederate lemm.ee and their communities are pretty cool.

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[โ€“] lemmy@acqrs.co.uk 6 points 1 year ago
[โ€“] oolong@lemmings.world 6 points 1 year ago (5 children)

I have joined several instances and all have their pros and cons, but I'll plug the most recent one (lemmings.world) because it checked all of these boxes for me:

  • Federated with both lemmy.world and beehaw.org
  • Not federated with certain more problematic instances
  • Stable/good uptime record
  • Upvotes/downvotes, community creation and image uploads enabled
  • I liked the name
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[โ€“] eleanor@social.hamington.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I joined Beehaw first because I like their philosophy, the admins seem pretty level headed, and they're decently large. But they defederated from/were never federated with a couple of instances that I was interested in, so I made my own instance and am here now.

[โ€“] notnotmike@programming.dev 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I did something similar with Beehaw, but found that Lemmy was making my Nas so much louder because of all the data it was writing to disk. So I decided to join programming.dev instead. Some day I want to host my own again but it's on hold for now

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[โ€“] owiseedoubleyou@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was initially on lemmy.world, but the frequent DDOS attacks and the fact that Hexbear and Beehaw had defederated from it really put me off. Also, communities like !linux and !privacy were much bigger on lemmy.ml compared to lemmy.world.

Soo I jumped ship to lemmy.ml

[โ€“] Rottcodd@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago

It depends on the instance - I have multiple accounts.

Kbin.social because I like the kbin software better than the lemmy software, and because Ernest is awesome.

Lemmy.world because it's definitive (when it's up).

Lemmy.one because it requires people to not be assholes.

Lemmy.ninja because the admins somehow manage to be both diligent and goofy, and because ninjas are cool.

[โ€“] dbilitated@aussie.zone 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

well i tried to join programming.dev because i'm a developer and i figured devs would run a fast server, but I didn't get the email they said I'd get when my account was approved. By the time I worked out the account was active anyway, I'd created an account on a geographical server and it's fast as with zero downtime so I'm sticking with it. Set up a monthly donation to keep it running and I'm super happy with it, the admin seems cool.

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[โ€“] Squids@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I wanted to go local and the closest instances were either Finnish or Danish and I went Finnish because I'd rather not accidentally order ten litres of milk every time I try to say something

Also this is where the fountain pen community originally was. They've since moved to wayfarer but honestly? I kinda like it here. Small instance and it's name isn't just Lemmy.somethingrather like most places are. I do one day want to host my own instance though, so I can have the pride of adding yet another thing to my domain's umbrella.

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[โ€“] comfy@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

I made this account a long time ago, the landscape was different. The three biggest (federated) instances were this, lemmygrad.ml and Wolfballs (alt-right, run by a right-libertarian but dominated by shameless racists and neo-nazis, most instances defederated from them).

Since Lemmygrad was often preemptively defederated from other instances, I wanted a stable well-connected instance that wouldn't die after a few months (learned that lesson the hard way on PeerTube) and am a socialist tech-expert. So the choice was simple. No regrets, and I wouldn't change it now.

I did have an alt on the former GTIO instance (civil debate only, no political-oriented bans) because I did want to see the garbage being posted by Wolfballs losers on there and practice deconstructing the flaws and refuting. I also had an alt on an instance that wasn't federated at the time. They were all appropriate choices given the landscape then and now, and I've had the foresight and fortune to almost never have an instance I use block one I wish to interact with. But unfortunately many so-called general instances have made dubious defederation choices which do make me worry that I may need to start making alts just to continue interacting with some communities in the future.

[โ€“] deathbird@mander.xyz 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I picked my instance because it wasn't too big or too small, and it federates with basically everyone.

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[โ€“] WtfEvenIsExistence@reddthat.com 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I first joined lemmy.dbzer0.com for the piracy and because the instance owner is an anarchist (or at least he claims to be, I don't really know that), then I got locked out of my bitwarden so I decided to make another account at reddthat.com so I don't have to type another essay to apply for lemmy.dbzer0.com (they've been application only since the spam bot threat and the temporary captcha removal from the code in Lemmy 18.0) And I chose reddthat because the name sounds fun, like reddit, but instead of read-it, it's read-that. Very pun-ny ๐Ÿ˜†

I don't really like reddthat after finding out that they disabled downvotes (they used ti allow downvoted if I remember correctly), but I don't want to deal with creating another account again so here I am.

If I forget my password again (let's hope not), I'd probably use lemmy.fmhy.net (formerly lemmy.fmhy.ml) because of piracy and no applications.

[โ€ฆ] so I don't have to type another essay to apply for lemmy.dbzer0.com

Just FYI: My entire application message was a single sentence and it was approved in less than an hour.

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[โ€“] orca@orcas.enjoying.yachts 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm a dev that likes to dabble in new things all the time and I have a pretty varied skillset that includes some DevOps chops. When I left Reddit and deleted my accounts after ~18 years being there, I wanted to be a real contributor to the Fediverse and not just a lurker or commenter. I continually got laughs out of the stories about orcas capsizing yachts, and thus the URL for my instance was born (I wanted it to be more playful and tongue-in-cheek, hence the "enjoying" part).

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[โ€“] itsyourmom@artemis.camp 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Started at Lemmy.world. Also made an account on Kbin.social. And Mastodon.social. Just checking out what the Fediverse was all about. Now Iโ€™m on Artemis.camp as a beta tester for the Artemis App and loving it!

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[โ€“] shaked_coffee@feddit.it 5 points 1 year ago

For me the choice was easy: I was already into the fediverse thanks to Mastodon and then (before all the reddit api drama) some lovely people I had already heard about decided to spin up a general purpose Italian Lemmy instance, and so far I couldn't be happier for my experience here.

Maybe I was just lucky but what I would suggest is try to see if there is a small/medium sized instance of your university/city/country as I think they are the ones that works our best (not just for Lemmy but for the fediverse in general)

[โ€“] moobythegoldensock@geddit.social 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It was one of the suggested ones on Memmy and the description seemed reddit-like so I picked it.

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[โ€“] AccountMaker@slrpnk.net 5 points 1 year ago

I'm on slrpnk.net

I wanted originally to join one of the big ones, but figured that I should distribute the load by going for a smaller instance. I was scrolling through a list of instances and saw the logo and the name. I was already vaguely familiar with solarpunk, so I chose it because it appeals to me (environmental awareness, anarchism, optimism, DIY, upcycling, pragmatism and so on). To be completely honest, I had no idea what "choosing a home instance" entailed at the time.

Pretty happy with the decision though, it's a themed instance so locally I get stuff you'd expect, and when browsing all I mostly see stuff from lemmy.world and lemmy.ml and the rest.

Not a particularly interesting story, but nevertheless here it is.

There was simply no acceptable alternative the moment I saw someone else from this instance and found out it was an option

[โ€“] zewm@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 year ago

I was on lemmy.world at first but it's constantly down so I started searching for a new instance. I fell in love with the lemmy.zip color theme.

I vape nicotine (former smoker) and I smoke weed. Not as much as I used to, but I had difficulty finding an instance with personal interest, so the one I am on seemed good.

[โ€“] andreluis034@lm.put.tf 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Made my own for myself and some friends. We couldn't be bothered creating account on the larger instances and have power tripping admins de-federating instances over trivial issues.

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[โ€“] IronKrill@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 year ago

Because Canada, woo! My definitely not picked on a whim choice has yet to fail me though, I haven't personally experienced any downtime or slowdowns and I like the community overall.

[โ€“] nonearther@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

No email requirement

[โ€“] Computerchairgeneral@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm on Kbin.social because it was being recommended a lot when all the Reddit stuff was happening and there weren't any hoops to jump through when signing up.

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Because I thought it'd be interesting to try hosting one myself.

i started with lemmy.one, but then started up my own instance. It just feels good to diy.

[โ€“] JDubbleu@programming.dev 4 points 1 year ago

lemmy.world kept going down every other hour and I figured being a software engineer this instance made the most sense.

[โ€“] CorrodedCranium@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I have a similar story where I originally went with FMHY up until it went down. I decided to go with dbzer0 because they have a similar stance for discussing piracy.

That said, as far as I know, they have the same rule as /r/piracy when it comes to requesting or linking to content which I don't personally like. I enjoyed helping people find music and TV shows on FMHY. They also want to keep things SFW which I don't personally have strong feelings about one way or the other but I'd prefer an instance with an indifferent approach.

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[โ€“] Huschke@programming.dev 4 points 1 year ago

Because I'm a developer and programmerHumor was my goto sub.

[โ€“] danielton@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 4 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Started with a really small instance, didn't really have a whole lot of content in All and struggled to find communities, so I joined lemmy.world, which got me a lot more content and communities, but now it's constantly having issues. So I'm trying this instance (as an alt for now) because there is a federation helper running on it. I'm honestly not sure which instance I will stick with long-term.

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[โ€“] freamon@endlesstalk.org 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I chose my current one because it offered Alexandrite as a front-end, and I didn't realise I could've just gone to alexandrite.app and used it for my old instance ('cos I'm stoopid).

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[โ€“] ThisIsNotHim@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

This was recommended when I made my account. There weren't any regional communities for where I'm from, so Finland seems as good a choice as any.

I'm not sure I made an informed decision, but if there are real downsides to my choice I haven't noticed them yet. I seem to be able to see the things I want to. I have to use the block button liberally, but I can't see that being instance related. It's largely due to using All at times, and not having strong enough tagging/filtering tools to make that workable without blocking tons of communities that are fine, but not for me.

[โ€“] maporita@unilem.org 4 points 1 year ago

Because unilem has a policy of not defederating from other instances. If I see a post I don't want to see again I can block it, but it's my decision.

gotta stand with fellow code monkeys

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