In my experience, not really. There is nothing to say. I am not going to talk shit about them, I don't want to do that to a person, and I would wish they wouldn't do it to me. So really it's more of a, "yeah we split up" and then maybe a well that sucks, if you need to talk let me know.
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In my experience my “friends” wait for me to break up with my girlfriends so they can get their chance with them and then stop talking to me. Then it goes sour and suddenly they want to hang out again.
So no, and I don’t have many friends any more.
Do Men Actually Talk to Each Other About Break-Ups?
Men will talk about all kinds of things when no one is around to say "suck it up" or "man up". We're not going to chatter endlessly, but I've been a part of some pretty serious discussions about breakups.
Men are much more likely to kill themselves after a divorce, so IMO it's obviously a big deal worth talking about.
Not just more likely, but 9 times more likely to die by suicide. Source:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1732362/pdf/v057p00993.pdf
Here's another article on the topic:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/acquainted-the-night/201906/divorce-is-risk-factor-suicide-especially-men
I'm not sure what the thesis of this article really is. In my social circles when there's a breakup people acknowledge it. If the person needs help we give it to him. Help him move past the old situation and help to find a new situation. They want to distraction we take them out and give him a distraction. We know the pain. We don't want to emphasize the pain. If somebody expresses confusion, like if it's their first real breakup, people go out of their way and give them advice. May not be good advice but they're doing their best.
I think the articles kind of hinting at that in many cultures men don't want to be a burden to their friends. And bringing their emotional baggage out in the open is burdening their friends if that problem. So they try to avoid it. Fair. Then the thesis of the article should be it's okay to be a burden emotionally on your friends when you actually need it. That would be a good thesis. But the article wasn't quite that articulate