Nonbinary

“if a potion/pill/button existed that could turn you into the opposite sex, would you use it?” and think to myself “Yeah, I’d be down to at least try that.” I know that doesn’t automatically make me trans, but it does make me question.

There is no minimal requirement to call yourself trans. I think it would be perfectly acceptable to call yourself trans even if you decide to do nothing about it. Also there is a pill to turn yourself into the opposite sex. It's generally called HRT. It took me years to realize that.

As far as labels, for me at least, their use is mainly to communicate with others and explore yourself. They do not actually define who you are. You can even use multiple labels that seem mutually exclusive with each other. There are no hard and fast rules.

For where to go from here, explore how you want to present yourself. Do you want a more feminine or androgynous haircut? Get one and see how it feels. Different clothes? I can tell you there are androgynous clothes in the women's section of stores that fit well on male bodies. The real point to to liberate yourself from others expectations and present yourself how you want to. That takes times, self-reflection on why you don't do things you want to do, pushing your own boundaries and discovering yourself.

This sounds familiar, I'm kinda the same way, I describe m'self as male as I happen to be that way, but if'n it changed tomorrow? Sure, why not, in fact several of my online characters are intersex, specifically the ones that I would be most happy becoming.
Yep, the ones that feel most right are a little from column A and a little from column B.
When it comes to sexuality, I've given up trying to figure that out, and simply refer to m'self as queer, since I think that and my gender are a bit mercurial, so an umbrella term that basically means not 'normal'/traditional/standard seems best.

Best I could say is do what makes you happy, and be patient, it's a journey, sometimes one without an end, sometimes with, so just explore and enjoy.

Gender identity and expression are different things, but they can be hard to differentiate if you don't have a strong sense of gender identity. It sounds like that's the case for you. If you find it useful to call yourself a demiboy, like if you want to signal that you're not super attached to man, go for it.

In language, the rules are made up and people don't really care about the fine details anyway, so don't get too stuck on technicalities of definitions. Demiboy or not, good luck on self discovery!

I'm also AMAB, but have recently started to question as well. I've been gravitating towards non-binary. There's not much I generally like that much about being a man. But I don't also want to be a woman, per se, although I do enjoy some feminine things. I've spent my whole live being shoved into boxes I don't necessarily like being in and now I'm at the point where I want to define for myself, what want and where I stand.

As far as gender expression goes, my best friend has helped me find the courage to try different clothes that express myself more. I've gained quite some weight over the years, which has resulted in a lot of body dismorphia, more than I already had. I do want to wear some more feminine clothing, but that does seem to intensify that. And started new medication since those years that partly caused this and I'm too depressed and have too little energy to do much about it. But I'm making small steps.

Apart of feeling shame of what men are generally responsible for in society. This more explains why I've always been more or less uncomfortable being a man in any sense of it.

I'm also terrible insecure and really need to find my identity in the broad sense of the word. It's the only way I'll be able to find some footing.

I hope you find what you're looking for. The journey is interested nonetheless.

Oh and the thing about attraction. For me now it's generally femme-presenting people. There is an encompassing label for it, nb people liking femme-presenting people but I mean nobody knows it and I'd have to look it up haha.

We'll get there :D.

Hey I'm a transfem and as I've dove more into practical styles? A LOT of the women's looks I like are so masculine and so tomboy that these women are literally wearing men's clothes. Lmao. It's like horseshoe theory but for gender.

A genre of look that's been liberating for me is "Visibly Queer" - this is someone who, well for one doesn't avoid transphobia, but is wearing something prrtty atypical. Beard + skirt, or masculine look + makeup, manbun, feminine shoes. Hell even past mainstream looks for men, like skinny jeans + oversized tee. And I've started at what is obviously queer and kind of... shaved that down into something I would say "yeah a man would never wear this" ... but they have, and some do. Sometimes really subtle items can calm my dysphoria without making a problem for transphobes over my presentation.