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hello Beehaw, it's a sleepy morning--and i did not get very much sleep. luckily i have no social priorities so this is not a big deal. currently reading a number of books after completely crashing out of doing that for the entire month of June. i think i can get about 3 in before the end of the month, we'll see

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[–] LunarticBot 25 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Gonna be going to climb Mount Fuji in 2 days. Super excited about it and looking forward to some time off work

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[–] sleepybisexual 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good. I came out as bi to my cousin yesterday. I've actually been having an ok week. I hope things stay ok

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[–] multicolorKnight@lemmy.ml 17 points 1 year ago (4 children)

My wife is having cardiac surgery right now, I am staying at a hotel near the hospital, working remotely, trying to keep busy and not think about it too much.

[–] YooHooBandit 9 points 1 year ago

I'm very sorry to hear that. Hoping the surgery goes well 🙏

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[–] jbpinkle 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Just created my account here in the past day. I know it probably can't last, but I don't think I've had that "cozy" feeling right away in a forum or other online community like this in decades, and I'd say it was somewhat rare even "back in the day."

So far folks seem to live up to the stated goals of the place and I think that's pretty great.

So my day is going pretty good because that's a pleasant surprise, and because a stressful work event today ended up being not too stressful after all.

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[–] sludge 13 points 1 year ago

my weeks been great, been eatin dino nuggets and watchin movies

[–] noeontheend 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

To cap off one of my strangest days in recent memory, I just got a call asking if I can go to England all next week to accompany a choir tour. Nothing's confirmed yet, and I'd have to pull some major strings to get out of my obligations here. However, I'd really love to go.

Unfortunately, we're moving a few days after I'd get back, so I'd pretty much dump all the packing on my partner. She says I should go regardless, but I definitely don't feel great about that.

I also just finished up a take-home interview project for a part-time software development job. I've been trying to break back into that world for some time now, so I'm very excited about the opportunity.

[–] wildeaboutoskar 6 points 1 year ago

Choir tours are great fun, hope yyhave a good time!

I should be going on tour with my choir next summer. Looking forward to it

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[–] Calamades@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago

Yesterday was my first day back at work after vacation (just chilled at home knitting and listening to audiobooks for a week) and it actually went incredibly well. I'm on a new ADHD medication that seems to be working without much side effects at all wbich is a huge relief and hopefully will really positively impact my productivity at work.

Me and my partner had a good and productive talk about our communications, and that was great.

It is absolutely ridiculously humid AF outside so the little thunderstorms we've been having this week have been a nice little break, with the added excitement of wondering if the power will go out and if so for how long.

I've read three books so far this week and am on a great series by Samantha SoRelle that I'm really enjoying.

Hope everyone is having an awesome day.

[–] Rudith 10 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hey!

I'm actually having a really sad week. My mother had a heart attack on Saturday evening (really unexpected, no history, they still don't know why) and collapsed. She lost oxygen to her brain for about 10 minutes. I'm trying to help my family and my dad through this time and I am finding anecdotes about people recovering (even if hard fought) but it's hard because she is still not really responding to verbal communications. I remain hopeful that it will get better but can't help the intrusive thoughts that the wonderful woman who raised me may be gone.

If anyone has been in a situation similar and has advice, I am all ears!

I apologize for the downer, and hope everyone else is doing better than I am.

[–] naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago

Not exactly the same but my grandmother had a stroke that left her unable to care for herself although mostly mentally intact. She was miserable and never adjusted. It was hell, and everyone was relieved when she died. I know that sounds horrible but there was nothing we could do to ease her suffering.

All I can really say is that brain injuries are awful, even if things turn out as well as they can the road there is going to be hell. Remember to take care of yourself, you'll have days of grief and anger when you think thoughts you're not proud of. Do not judge yourself too harshly, or your family.

You will need time and space to grieve and it's going to be very hard to get that at the moment. Try to make space when you can, and understand that everyone else needs that too. You will need support, your friends and extended family might avoid bring your mum up believing that it spares you suffering to avoid thinking about the situation. You might need to be quite explicit with your needs around emotional support, conversations, venting, and advice.

I am sorry, my heart goes out to you. Generally the prognosis for brain injuries isn't good, and it's probably best to set expectations around that to avoid self blame and another round of grief if things don't improve. That said stimulation is important for brain healing, particularly early on. Try to chatter, ask questions etc even though you might not get a response. Play music she likes, try to do things around her/in view. Try physical therapy stuff if she's mobile. Even gentle movement of limbs by another person can help prompt re-connection of neural pathways.

Good luck

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[–] GlassHalfHopeful 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Yeah. I just finished a book that I really enjoyed called A Day Of Fallen Night which is a pretty cool to The Priory Of The Orange Tree if you've heard of it. It really was a great read, but the pacing and chosen method for organizing the various character viewpoints made my skin crawl more than once. It was frustrating, but one of those books that I really wanted to read regardless.

There is once a book that I read through, because once I'm committed I find it very hard to stop reading, but it was by far the most horrendous experience ever because the author didn't use quotes for the entire book and I had a real hard time following the dialogue.

Just finished also a couple of novellas which were a really nice and different from the more intense (e.g. action heavy) books I tend to read. They were the first books I've read where the protagonist is non-binary and referred to as they. It was challenging in some ways but also very good for me as well. A Psalm For The Wild-built and it's sequel A Prayer for the Crown-Shy.

Writing styles can certainly make a break books.

That Meltdown book looks interesting!

[–] Nerples 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I desperately need to read Priory! A Psalm For The Wildbuilt was so good, was short but probably my favorite read of the year! I've been meaning to get to the sequel but haven't managed to find time

[–] GlassHalfHopeful 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

The sequel novella is just as short, but I was fortunate to be able to read them back to back. I enjoyed them so much and found them so refreshing in so many ways.

I don't remember The Priory having the same pacing issues as it's prequel, so I hope you really really enjoy it. And to be clear, I liked the prequel a lot too.

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[–] debbiedowner 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I've been trying to pull myself out of a depressive episode. No luck yet.

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[–] Witch 9 points 1 year ago

My mother got put back on her disability benefits and now I'm hunting down apartments for us to live in to get out of a bad housing situation that we were stuck in because it was cheap and we only had one income.

Got two viewings this week.

[–] mustyOrange 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm burnt out and can't focus at work. Really wish I had more that 2 weeks of vacation time a year

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[–] TheOakTree 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Preparing to go to a national park, one that my mother has been excited to visit for the last decade... Yellowstone!

We got very affordable flight ticket prices, and the whole family's gonna be extra busy after this summer, so I'm hoping it turns out nicely. Also excited to try out my new binoculars! I want to see many borbs 🥺

[–] iamhazel 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's okay. I hit a new weight high of 129 lbs (I am 5'11" so hitting as low as 119 is fucked) but now the idea of eating even more is extra nauseating and unappealing. About to see my therapist though and they'll be thrilled with the gains. Anyone else fucking despise food and eating and biological needs??

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[–] verbalbotanics 8 points 1 year ago

Thanks for these posts, it's a nice little reminder to check in with myself. Ups and downs, but mostly good. Feels so nice after a long day to relax playing the new Zelda. I don't care if I ever beat it, I just want to run around gathering mushrooms and stuff, it's so soothing for me.

[–] SevenSwell 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm trying to find a new job asap! Last week was really the last straw. I was hired for a technical position but for the past two years I've done nothing but punishing manual labor almost entirely unrelated to my job. I don't mind working outside my job description but the reality is I've lost so much knowledge just from being out of practice. I hope it hasn't ruined my shot at the right job. Its technically possible for me to return to school full time but I'm not sure I could 1) make the sacrifices required and 2) actually succeed. I've failed twice already.

I know everyone working out in the field wishes they had a desk job and vice versa, but damn I'd love a cubicle.

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[–] LoamImprovement 8 points 1 year ago (4 children)

My dad is going through DTs and I'm on the other side of the world on a business trip. I hope the withdrawal doesn't kill him before I get to see him again.

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[–] marauderprophecy1998 8 points 1 year ago

It’s alright. Just came back to visit my parents and just can’t help but think why is relationship so hard for me for some reason lmao.

[–] realChem 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd sum it up as: 😴☕📝

Can't wait for my thesis overview to be in the past (hopefully I pass! 🤞)

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[–] Aio 7 points 1 year ago

I'm hopefully going to meet my boyfriend in 2 days

[–] thatonedude1210 7 points 1 year ago

So far, so good. Optimistic about getting a job soon. :)

[–] msprout 7 points 1 year ago

Sigh, I'm okay. Work is really stressful lately. I went through an acquisition, and really got demoted in both rank and importance. Defeating, but, I'm also still glad to have a job where I can work from where my cats live.

[–] CherryClan 7 points 1 year ago

I finished a meeting that I was dreading for WEEKS. It went ok.

[–] fred 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)
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[–] Megaman_EXE 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There has been a lil bad and a decent amount of good this week so far

My job's treating us poorly even though we're making the company massive profits in the millions. I would like to leave but I think I've been in this dead end position too long. I might need to re skill but I have no idea what I would like/what would pay enough.

The weekend was busy but a lot of fun. Got to go to my first anime convention. Only went for one day when I could have easily gone for the whole weekend. Next year I'll do that. It was nice because I haven't gone to any events like that for probably about 5 years or so. Usually I'm not tired at night but both Saturday and Sunday night I fell asleep right away which was kind of nice for a change.

[–] NaoPb 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't know what kind of jobs your in and how your job market is right now, but it never hurts to take a look at your resume and maybe look around for other jobs while still in the "comfort" of a paying job.

Glad to hear you visited a social gathering and enjoyed it. I've had some social experiences recently which have given me some positivity in my life and I am glad to see you have too.

Do you watch anime too, by chance? If so, may I ask which one(s)?

[–] Megaman_EXE 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Currently things are a bit iffy for me. I originally went to school for web development, but from what I have seen it seems like people want a "unicorn developer" that can do everything.

I've still sent my resume out to a few places where I thought I could still fit or make it work but I haven't gotten any replies back yet. I'm currently in a role that doesn't use those skills but is much more teaching focused. I provide technical support with a program/tool that was made by the company I work for. So that knowledge can kind of carry over to other areas, but it's more soft skills if that makes sense.

But yeah it was a very mentally refreshing experience to go to a convention! I've watched a variety of things, probably too many to list. But some of my Favorites have been Soul Eater, Air Gear, Naruto, Steins Gate, JoJo's Bizarre adventure, all of Studio Ghibli's catalogue

[–] cakey 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

i've been stuck in a rut now for a couple of weeks, so this week hasn't been any different. i am in a state of living right now where nothing is interesting to me: no games, no movies/shows, no music, not really anything. i am thinking about buying pikmin 4 to help with that. i've never really played any pikmin games but it looks so fun

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[–] literallyacat 6 points 1 year ago

I'm in the process of selling my current car to my sibling so I can get something more fuel efficient with a hatchback. Have my eye on something specific and hopefully nobody snags it up before saturday!

[–] NoraReed 6 points 1 year ago

I had a really difficult weekend and didn't sleep much last night, but I did sell a piece of jewelry that I'm really proud of yesterday, so that's a bright spot.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav 6 points 1 year ago

The bad: I made the worst mistake at work I've made so far, so I'm getting started on the wrong foot. I'm doing what I can to fix it, but I dropped the ball on one of my clients, and it's tearing me apart.

Plus, it turns out Chuck Palahniuk is a raging misogynist, so I need to find a different book.

The good: Doggies are cute, and so are kitties

[–] JCPhoenix 6 points 1 year ago

Massive windstorm came through my area last Friday afternoon. Had like Cat 1 hurricane winds. In the Midwest US. So it knocked down trees and powerlines all over the metro area. I was out of power from 4:00pm on Friday through 8:30pm Monday.

So it was a shitty weekend. I (and my brother who's visiting) stayed in my apartment on Friday night, which was sweltering. Humidity and like 85F (29.4C) temps inside, even with windows open, made it miserable to sleep. Saturday, we spent like 7hrs at my company's tiny office (we're actually full remote) charging up phones and battery banks, while just hanging out and enjoying the AC. But we stayed in my apt again on Saturday night, which was just a bit cooler, but enough that I was able to sleep like 8hrs. Sunday during the day was OK, but then it rained again and got sunny afterwards, driving up humidity. We finally decided to get a hotel room. On Monday, after checking out, we hung out at the local library to work (I could've gone to my office, but I knew a couple co-workers w/o power at home were there). Monday evening was a little cooler again, so we braved the apt, and then the power came back. Even through Tuesday, there were still like a thousand customers in the metro without power. I think the utility is back to normal ops now.

Overall, it just a wasted weekend. It sorta felt like homelessness, especially when going to my office, then to the hotel, then going to the library. At my apartment, it was sorta like camping but way less fun.

At least I had no property damage or injuries. Driving around, I saw lots of trees on houses. I saw at least a few vehicles that looked totally destroyed since trees fell on them. So it could've been worse for us.

[–] curiosityLynx 6 points 1 year ago

In short:

Very hot weather & no AC => window open at night => getting woken up at 5:30 in the morning by early morning trains => tired af

[–] Resonant1061 6 points 1 year ago

Spent the week at a work conference. I normally WFH, so getting to see everyone in person was kinda nice. Got a flight delay going home - no big deal, but I'm anxious to get back home to my dogs and partner.

[–] BuxtonWater 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Eh kinda shitty, one of my main medications (Subutex) dropped dosage again this week and it suddenly felt like I've been hit with a brick, emotionally speaking at least, bored as hell, tired, no real desire to eat or do anything, etc. I'm close to being done with this medication but the last parts like getting off it at the very end are the hardest.

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[–] alyaza 5 points 1 year ago (5 children)

just finished two books today: I'll Be Gone in the Dark: One Woman's Obsessive Search for the Golden State Killer and The Greatest Polar Expedition of All Time: The Arctic Mission to the Epicenter of Climate Change. i have concluded that i dislike most true crime and that i mostly derive amusement from such books because they display how incompetent a lot of cops are. i would recommend The Greatest Polar Expedition of All Time if you would like to know about what it takes to do a scientific mission in the Arctic

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[–] misguidedfunk 5 points 1 year ago

Went to a coffee cupping class and got to talk shop with other coffee roasters. It’s been a great start to the week.

[–] Mandy 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Last week my gf and her friends gave me the chance to do something different, so I quit my job (on the grace period right now) and we are starting to figure law stuff out cause we are international

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[–] newtraditionalists 5 points 1 year ago

Going to see Tori Amos this weekend so I will be giddy all week. Saw her once before 18 years ago, so it's been a long time coming. Can't wait!!

[–] EponymousBosh 5 points 1 year ago

Been a weird one, ngl

[–] nihilx7E3 5 points 1 year ago

decent so far, spent all of yesterday with family. hope everyone else is having a good week too. good luck on the book goal @alyaza@beehaw.org & make sure to get some more rest!

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