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what’s the difference of behaviors between a person with npd and just an asshole? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) by drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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how could you tell, since npd is an actual condition, so of course they’ll act differently, but it’s used so often to describe a regular, typical asshole.

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[–] davel@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

One of them narrowly made it into the DSM-5 and the other never will.

The Politics of Sociopathic Narcissism

It is thus plausible to consider “narcissism” and “sociopathy” as really two poles on a continuum of overlapping traits (and indeed, the newly-revised DSM V, which considered subsuming narcissistic traits into sociopathy, has moved in this direction).

[–] bad_news@lemmy.billiam.net 5 points 1 week ago

Youtuber Sarah Z has a whole video about how this online "Narcissist" obsession is dumb.

[–] superkret@feddit.org 4 points 1 week ago

The asshole is an asshole on purpose.
The narcissist couldn't stop acting like an asshole even if they tried.

[–] terminhell@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 week ago

Narcissist believes they're right. Assholes just think you're wrong.

[–] Alice 4 points 1 week ago

Narcissism, like all personality disorders, is a trauma response and also not indicative of someone's moral character as you can get help and learn not to act on your worst inclinations.

Asshole is a behavior.

[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

anyone performing actions that hurt others where its not really about themselves. being mean for no particular reason or reward, especially to themselves.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago

this lady who was my friend for a while is mean a lot because she has anger issues and is just a generally miserable, rude person. she is also autistic (i believe) like me, and gets overstimulated and is rude to everyone when they start talking all at once.

however, she is also especially cruel when she wants some sort of goal, and acts superior to everyone else. you’re a useless loser no matter how hard you try, and you are disgusting to be around. how dare you stand less than 10 yards from her?! you’re lucky to even be in her presence.

also, she is “always better than you” and cannot admit being wrong or take accountability.

[–] daytonah@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 days ago

Sam Vikins... "Malignant self love" explains everything. Or check out his yt.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 week ago

a narcissist is self-absorbed

an asshole actively enjoys the suffering of others

[–] WhatSay@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 week ago

There's gotta be a vin diagram for this one

[–] ragepaw@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 days ago

I am not a narcissist. I don't think I'm better or more important than anyone else. I don't think I'm the center of the universe.

I am however, an asshole. Knowing you are not the best or smartest, doesn't mean you can't be arrogant and insufferable.

[–] NahMarcas@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 week ago

Depression