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What are some subtle/small influences from your past that help shape the person you are today? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 weeks ago by Cataphract@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I always forget we are creatures of habit till that moment hits. I have a relative who is a woodworker, but the reality is they just love collecting wood because they worked at a sawmill as a teenager and talking about wood was all his peers did. I also have a friend who wears the same cologne since childhood because a crush once complimented them on it.

I suppose always being the "good friend" (in their parents eyes) made me more sociable, so now I avoid "events" because I just feel like it's a game and I don't want my interactions with other people to feel that way (love small gatherings with a purpose though, the Amish got it right with the barn raising).

What are some that you've experienced personally or through someone close to you?

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[–] Bullybeard@lemm.ee 12 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I once had someone I knew pull a gun on me when I was 14 and had to fight it off them before they could switch off the safety. 11 years later, I still get anxious if I'm talking to someone and I can't see both their hands, they have their hands in their pockets etc until both hands are in sight

[–] kat@orbi.camp 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm sorry that happened to you. So unfair.

[–] Bullybeard@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago

Thank u for ur kindness stranger and hey life's never fair yk, we move on with things as best as we're able to and hope for better

[–] DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago

America?

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 9 points 3 weeks ago

A teacher telling us to wash our hands after school

I took it a bit too much at heart now I wash my hands 100~200 of times / day

Yes they are as dry as they can be

[–] supermurs@lemm.ee 4 points 3 weeks ago

My late uncle was really into computers. He was around 20 years older than me and as I kid I got to play around with his computers. My first time accessing the Internet was at his place too.

If it wasn't for these experiences, I probably wouldn't have made a career in IT myself.

Unfortunately I never got to "talk shop" with him but I like to think he is somewhere out there watching and guiding me.

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 2 points 3 weeks ago

I wonder about this but am not sure. I was an avid reader and collected comics so I wonder how much the authors and even artists influenced my world view. I was put through catholic school and it must have had some sort of effect. I like a lot of progressive/newwave/alternative rock bands which is just filled with social commentary and meaning. I can't point to any specific thing which then effected how I act though.

[–] Didros 1 points 3 weeks ago

I once called a friend a few times after school because I wanted to hang out like an hour apart. My mother told me that if they wanted to talk to me, they would call me. I struggle to keep relationships now and only have like four people I truly consider a friend.