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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 

Can any straight man here explain what they like and why they like boobs so much? Like, what makes them attractive and why? Is it the size? Shape? Or The way they jiggle?

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[–] python@programming.dev 66 points 3 months ago

Not straight, and not a man, but I just think they're neat! There really doesn't need to be a "why" to attraction, sometimes your brain just sees something and goes "yes"

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 55 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Honestly? I often ponder this. It's amusing when you consider how enamored we are with bosoms.

I've heard it described that "Woman is the most beautiful shape in the human consciousness." And that stuck with me.

My wife often catches me gawking and thinks it's weird but I'm just like "You're just amazing. All of you. Everything about you." I feel like an idiot because I can't explain what the heck I actually mean.

It's just hard to fathom how a single being can be so... naturally aesthetic!

Women are just awesome. As a visual artist myself, I totally understand the compulsion to depict cute/pretty/happy/sexy ladies all the time. Heck, some artists do this exclusively. Variety is the spice of life, artists, but I get it. πŸ˜‚

I think we're coded to enjoy rounded elegant shapes, but there's something enchanting about femininity as a whole, and boobs and butts signal "feminine!!" to our brains.

Also I'd say size and such really doesn't matter. I think the really fascinating thing is the sheer variety, to the point they're unique to the woman as an individual person. And it has nothing to do with biological essentialism! (Tiny boobs are just as good at feeding young as ginormous ones)

It's also a bit cultural, I think. They're so obvious, yet hidden in polite company. So seeing them exposed feels like you have an intimate window into this person's world, and you feel special for the privilege, I suppose.

Lol now I feel like a weirdo, typing this all out. Does that help? LOL

[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 20 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Straight male here. This response is excellent.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 1 points 3 months ago

Hey, that means a lot. Thanks! :)

[–] Glasgow@lemmy.ml 52 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Life is hard and boobs are soft.

[–] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 3 months ago

Best answer

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 38 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Gay woman

Small ones are cute and bite sized, big ones are squishy pillows. Regardless of size, they're all soft and cute.

[–] SpaceFox@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 months ago (3 children)

"Gay woman"

Isn't that just straight woman?

[–] I_am_10_squirrels 1 points 3 months ago

Are you conflating gay and trans?

[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 30 points 3 months ago

Everybody likes boobs. They are the first positive thing we are introduced to in life.

The inprint is strong.

[–] SteleTrovilo 19 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It can't be explained directly, by itself. They're part of a bigger picture.

Straight men are attracted to women on the whole - legs, arms, waist, face, chest, back, it's all good. Whatever force it is that makes us attracted to women, it's not something that we chose or decided. We just do.

Since boobs are a sign of femininity, they're attractive to us on exactly that level! They fit into our idea of what women look like.

[–] MonkeMischief@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Edited: Made my reply at root level instead of piggybacking yours with a ton of paragraphs. :p

[–] schnurrito@discuss.tchncs.de 18 points 3 months ago

More or less an instinct I think. That is how I was able to tell I was starting puberty, that I started to imagine and want to see and touch naked breasts of the women and girls around me. I myself didn't have an explanation why, but that was now more than half my life ago and it hasn't stopped.

I don't have strong preferences as to shape and size. Small breasts are still breasts.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 14 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

They are soft, easy to grab, and they belong to an attractive person's body at large, which makes them an amazing tactile experience overall.

On the looks, they greatly complement the hourglass shapes, which are very harmonious and pleasing.

[–] HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 months ago

I don't know, probably for the same reason others like other things. Chemical reactions, probably?

[–] Aarrodri@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Firmware. It's not a logical rational decision. Years of evolution I guess? There is embedded code in our brains that see tatas and we go ape.

[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That's definitely not true. Many cultures around the world don't see breasts sexually at all.

[–] thepreciousboar@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Educate yourself. Numerous cultures don't cover the female breast. Not my job.

[–] squid_slime@lemm.ee 7 points 3 months ago

Just something compelling about them. All shapes and sizes

[–] verdigris@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 months ago

The biological hypothesis is that they look like an ass on your chest. Asses are visually arousing for males for what I hope are obvious reasons.

[–] DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 7 points 3 months ago

Boobs look like they're drops of water, just about to drip. So there's a certain anticipation there. Our brains are wired to predict where action and movement is going to be.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I don't know why. But I like small firm boobs.. Seeing their shapes through clothes is the sexiest to me.

I remember how I thought about this before I went into puberty though. I had no interests in girls at all. And I remember wondering when that would happen.

Then it did happen and boobs became very sexy. So I guess it's just chemicals in our brains/body causing it.

[–] gnutrino@programming.dev 4 points 3 months ago

Probably some form of Fisherian runaway over the course of human evolution tbh.

[–] BearOfaTime@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

Why do you like chocolate?

Coffee?

Ice cream?

Brussels Sprouts?

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 4 points 3 months ago

Shape mostly, but also texture, softness, and smell.

[–] gramie@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 months ago

Given that large areas of the world do not see breasts as sexual, it's hard to avoid the conclusion that breasts are erogenous because our society has said that they are, rather than any innate characteristic.

When I lived in Africa, women and girls had no problem exposing their breasts, but would go to great length to keep their thighs covered.

All creatures, including humans, possess instinctual knowledge. This is stuff we are born with. For instance: fear of snakes, or estinating how much protein is in our food by taste. Some of our instinctual knowledge is about mate selection since procreation is a very important goal for a species. We use our nose to detect if others are a good immune system match, and we use our eyes to see if they are sick or unhealthy and also assess their ability to nurture children. That last part is where the boobs come in. They make breast milk and so they are a feature that gives pleasure to see. There is no choice about it. We like what we like because of our genetic programming.

[–] somenonewho@feddit.org 3 points 3 months ago

Obviously there is no one easy explanation here (as you can see by all the different responses).

I think evolutionary factors play into a general affection people have for boobs. They are humans first source of food and with it an extremely intimate contact. Also on a "birth readiness" perspective Boobs on a woman suggest that she can feed a child (just as wide hips suggest she can bear one).

There is something to be said about culture. Since boobs are considered "sexual" they have to be covered in "decent" settings (see also discussions about female presenting nipples on social media) which simply adds to their sexualization.

Also, in my sexual experience (Bi male) nipples and breasts (boobs/man boobs ...) are erogenous zones so playing with them (touching/pinching/kissing/biting...) actually is arousing thus they are "sexual" parts.

Thats just my two cents.

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 months ago

Sexuality is complex and can occur in almost any circumstance. Rule 34 much?

People get off on watching people pop ballons with their ass. Or sitting on pies. Boobs are a fetish, mainstream as hell, but a fetish none the less.

[–] SouthEndSunset@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago

All of what you said. Something about them makes them ace to look at.

Plus, boobs are boobs…big, small, saggy, perky, real, fake. As man’s reaction when a woman takes her top off is a good way to judge him….

[–] monk@lemmy.unboiled.info 3 points 3 months ago

We are a stupid neural network trained to detect fertile partners of a specific sex. Ever wondered why so many girls try to oversaturate, say, their naturally ever so slightly brighter lip color? Everything mass beauty industry does is taking male/female characteristics and dialing them up to eleven.

All to make our mating radar detect the gender from as many yards away as possible.

Being animals sucks. =/

[–] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 3 months ago
[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 months ago

because they are the soft warm and sweet examples of life

[–] Notyou@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

All of that. It makes a mesmerizing movement that I would just like to keep looking at.

[–] geoma@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 months ago

Mom, milk, life, love

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago

As it turns out, I don't feel attracted to boobs, I just feel like I should have them. Can't help ya here chief

[–] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 months ago

A large part of it is what part of a woman's body is objectified by society at large. There were times it was ass. Times it was hips. Times when women had to cover their ankles. Now it's breast, but it's all good to me.

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 2 points 3 months ago

Are you unaware of how evolution works?

[–] geneva_convenience@lemmy.ml 2 points 3 months ago

So soft yet so firm.