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A Message to American Members of our Community (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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As election day nears in the United States it can be a stressfull, scary and anxious time for everyone. As such, the moderators and I felt it important to say a few words.

Remember that your voice is essential. Every vote counts, and showing up to the polls empowers our community and influences the change we deserve. If you have not yet voted, please ensure you have a plan.

The National Center for Transgender Equality offers an excellent checklist aimed specifically at trans voters. It contains instructions for what to do on voting day, as well as information to show to poll workers that advocates for your rights. Please print and carry the document with you.

Stay Safe While Voting

For those of you voting in person, prioritze your safety. Bring a friend if possible, stay aware of your surroundings, and remember it’s okay to leave and return another time if you feel unsafe. If you ever feel threatened, don’t hesitate to contact local authorities or seek a safe space nearby.

Crisis Support

If you or someone you know needs immediate support, here are some US-based resources (from GLAAD):

We do not consider the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline a safe resource for the trans community due to their history of involving local law enforcement without the caller's consent, which can result in indefinite detainment.

Mutual Aid and Support

Reach out for support or mutual aid if you need it. This community is available to all who need to discuss issues, get something off their chest, or find support. We allow mutual aid requests with prior approval from the moderation team, so reach out to us. In addition, the following communities and resources are available for mutual aid or support:

The best mutual aid and support is local. We encourage everyone to research trans advocacy groups around them, local queer facebook pages, and keep connected with their community.

A Personal Note from Emily

As someone watching from Australia, I want you to know that you are not alone in this. The international community is watching this election closely, and most of us feel a deep anger that your rights can be and are on the ballot.

This specific trans community and each member is extremely important to me. You make the world a better place. I care deeply about your safety, your voice, and your wellbeing. No matter how things seem right now, know that there’s a global community standing in solidarity with you, holding hope, and offering support in every way we can.

Please stay safe, take care of yourself, and reach out for support when its necessary.

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[–] interrobang@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm scared. I cant pay attention worth a damn at work today so I'm replying here.

Im going to a queer event tomorrow with lots of friends, but i know were all freaked out. I live in a progressive pocket of a deep red state.

I dont know what to do with myself. If tmrw goes well, relief and celebration.

If not? Fuck. I truly dont know.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I guess in the worst case scenario you continue to try to build strong mutual aid networks and focus on the actual needs of yourself and your community, whether that is helping people move to safe states, getting access to hormones, etc. Anti-trans legislation is putting trans lives at risk in red states whether Trump wins or not, so it's good to focus on what is important and to work together.

[–] Facebones@reddthat.com 7 points 3 days ago

Big bearded cishet mountainy fucker here for y'all both conceptually and have put word out around locally that I'm free all day if anyone feels unsafe going alone.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

I just wanna go in on Tuesday, Vote, go to bed, and wake up several days later when it's all over so I don't lose sleep anxiously looking at results every few hours.

I'm mentally exhausted thinking about it constantly:

  • Am I going to be harrassed for daring to be registered as not-republican in a red state?
  • Am I going to be targeted for being a non-republican working for the government?
  • If the wrong person wins, am I going to be put against the wall when people put two and two together (IRL + internet personae)?
[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I Voted, yaaay! Promptly put two "i voted" stickers on my shirt over nipples when I got back to my car.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)
  • If the wrong person wins, am I going to be put against the wall when people put two and two together (IRL + internet personae)?

I literally came out to my parents about a week ago because of this question. I wish I'd done it sooner because I found that I'd been scared for mostly no reason. Furthermore, turns out 20-ish years of supressed dysphoria is reaaaally bad for your mood, self-worth, screws up your ability to function as a normal person and generally destroys your enthusiasm for life. Got used to it and didn't even realize I was experiencing it but coming out to my parents also caused all of that to come out too.

Uuuhh, anyway, I just kinda figured that, between domestic and foreign spying agencies, the US government probably already knew I was trans, even if my family didn't. As such, there wasn't any reason not to come out anymore; might as well go out waving my flag, yanno?

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Yeeeeeah, it'd be nice, except I have the same boss as my dad. And we both sit within 10 feet of the water cooler. In an office full of old white dudes. Who have regularly made the classic sarcastic "i identify as" jokes.

I'm not particularly masochistic, nor do I want to potentially fuck over my own dad's retirement.

I'd rather be living in a different (and non-red) state where nobody knows me or him before I make any moves.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Oof, that sucks. I'm also in a deep red state, but I'm lucky enough to live in a city. It makes me sad that, even within our community, we have such radically different experiences with parents. If my dad was more emotive and my mom was more emotionally stable then I'd probably try roping them into being a mom and dad for the local LGBT and furry communities. Maybe some day.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Pretty sure my mom would be supportive and my dad would be indifferent-ish, just... don't want to deal with backlash in an area where EVERYONE knows him by name. Don't want him to have to deal with people talking behind his back.

Ohio isn't like, the reddest of red, but it's fairly up there. The KKK knows not to do things in public usually, and they get heavily counter protested if they do, and fuck me it's depressing to even be able to type that what the fuck...

Trump flags everywhere, coal-rolling jackasses with giant Trump flags, punisher flags/stickers, etc...

[–] KaRunChiy@fedia.io 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Sames, I went in for early voting tho, so I dodged the crowds, but those same questions have been keeping me up at night as well. I've been obsessively thinking about where I could possibly go if I wanted to keep being true to myself

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I know it's probably unfounded, but i just don't trust mail-in voting this time around. Too much shit happened to USPS due to trump/DeJoy, and living in a hard-red state, I just don't trust that my vote would not be ignored.

I can't afford to go anywhere, I'm more or less fucked if he wins.

[–] KaRunChiy@fedia.io 8 points 3 days ago

Depending on your state they do provide in person early voting alongside mail ballots. That's what I did, though they are often times in different locations than what you're told and you have to go looking

[–] EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 days ago

I just want you to know that I appreciate what you're doing with this post. It's important information, and just as importantly it reminds those of us who may be feeling alone in this difficult time that they are not alone. There are others who are in the same position as them and who care about them.

So thanks. <3