EmilyIsTrans

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[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I'm on my phone right now so sorry for the short reply. Will expand when I get the chance (other people please pitch in).

TransLifeline used to offer microgrants until they ran into financial issues, giving them some donations would go a long way.

Both they and The Trevor Project also offer crisis support lines. I'm sure they're busy right now and you should consider giving them your support as well.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 68 points 1 week ago (2 children)

This message was prepared ahead of time, along with one for Kamala Harris. I am sorry that this is the one we had to post. We will be monitoring the community closely over the next few days to redirect anyone in need to appropriate resources.

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Post-Election Message (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

With it becoming increasingly clear that Donald Trump will almost certainly win the US election, the moderators and I felt it important to say a few words and direct people to crisis support resources.

We know this outcome is devastating for so many of us. It's difficult to see the outcome we feared come to pass, and it's completely understandable to feel heartbroken, fearful, or even numb. We need to come together as a community now more than ever. We need to support each other. We need to ensure no one is alone in their fear or pain.

The challenges ahead may seem insurmountable and frankly overwhelming, but our voices and actions are still powerful. Staying engaged in your local community, in advocacy, and ensuring our voices are not silenced is more crucial now than ever.

Crisis Support

If you or someone you know needs immediate support, here are some US-based resources (from GLAAD):

We do not consider the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline a safe resource for the trans community due to their history of involving local law enforcement without the caller's consent, which can result in indefinite detainment.

Mutual Aid

Now is the time to lean into local resources and community groups. The people around you, especially other LGBTQ+ advocates and allies, can be a source of great strength and stability. Here are a few ways to connect:

The best mutual aid and support is local. We encourage everyone to research trans advocacy groups around them, local queer facebook pages, and keep connected with their community.

Moving Forward

While the outcome is devastating, our community is strong. It's important to remember that progress in queer and minority rights has always been a story of hard fought battles through adversity. In moments like these, we stand on the shoulders of those who fought the battles before us. This is a time to lean on each other, amplify our voices, and advocate for the protections and rights we deserve. Organize, reach out, educate, and support one another as we move forward. Every action counts — from contacting representatives to showing up for each other in times of need.

Please stay safe and take care of yourself, especially in the coming days.

I still remember the first time I caught a glance of myself in the mirror and read "girl"! It's a great feeling

 

As election day nears in the United States it can be a stressfull, scary and anxious time for everyone. As such, the moderators and I felt it important to say a few words.

Remember that your voice is essential. Every vote counts, and showing up to the polls empowers our community and influences the change we deserve. If you have not yet voted, please ensure you have a plan.

The National Center for Transgender Equality offers an excellent checklist aimed specifically at trans voters. It contains instructions for what to do on voting day, as well as information to show to poll workers that advocates for your rights. Please print and carry the document with you.

Stay Safe While Voting

For those of you voting in person, prioritze your safety. Bring a friend if possible, stay aware of your surroundings, and remember it’s okay to leave and return another time if you feel unsafe. If you ever feel threatened, don’t hesitate to contact local authorities or seek a safe space nearby.

Crisis Support

If you or someone you know needs immediate support, here are some US-based resources (from GLAAD):

We do not consider the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline a safe resource for the trans community due to their history of involving local law enforcement without the caller's consent, which can result in indefinite detainment.

Mutual Aid and Support

Reach out for support or mutual aid if you need it. This community is available to all who need to discuss issues, get something off their chest, or find support. We allow mutual aid requests with prior approval from the moderation team, so reach out to us. In addition, the following communities and resources are available for mutual aid or support:

The best mutual aid and support is local. We encourage everyone to research trans advocacy groups around them, local queer facebook pages, and keep connected with their community.

A Personal Note from Emily

As someone watching from Australia, I want you to know that you are not alone in this. The international community is watching this election closely, and most of us feel a deep anger that your rights can be and are on the ballot.

This specific trans community and each member is extremely important to me. You make the world a better place. I care deeply about your safety, your voice, and your wellbeing. No matter how things seem right now, know that there’s a global community standing in solidarity with you, holding hope, and offering support in every way we can.

Please stay safe, take care of yourself, and reach out for support when its necessary.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

You definitely need approval to publish on the Play Store. It's just more basic

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 3 weeks ago (16 children)

Do you have more faith in Trump's?

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I legally changed my name and gender!!!

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 months ago

counterpoint:

I don't want you to call me female or male. Creeps call me female and bigots call me male.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 months ago

I'm pretty happy, aside from my voice. I'm three years in at this point and the HRT has done it's magic. I can tell I at least sometimes can pass visually because men online have started condescending to me and being kinda creepy sometimes. I wanna lose more weight so I can fit into more clothes etc, but am otherwise pretty happy with my appearance (at least on a good day, I still get intense dysphoria sometimes).

My voice sucks. I'm not exactly outgoing and talkative, so getting the practice in to improve my voice has been hard. I'm pretty sick of the weird looks I get when I give my name in my still-masculine voice. Ditto to the staring oldies and the eshays intentionally "sir"-ing me. On the upside my social transition has gone well, my family and friends are pretty accepting, something I'm certainly not taking for granted!

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

I finally got off anti-depressants only to find out that I've still got some depression apparently. Reminded me of this comic (credit Haus of Decline):

Man: "Wow I have so many mental problems" / "But maybe if I..." / Same 'man', now transitioned into a woman: "Hey this solved like 70% of my mental problems!" / "Slightly pissed it didn't solve the remaining 30%"

Either way, guess I'm going back on a low dose of anti-depressants. At least my voice training is going ok!

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago

I wouldn't say I no longer experience dysphoria when looking in the mirror, on the contrary just a few weeks ago I experienced the worst episode I've had since transitioning (and I'm approaching three years). I would more say that, on many days, I'll catch my reflection and my brain will read it as "woman" (even pretty!). Other days, especially depending on how I'm feeling about myself generally, I'll fixate on what I perceive as the masculine aspect of my face (or mostly my body TBH). It's not perfect, but I'll take the wins when I can get them.

Like I said, I had that happen for the first time around about where you are. But it's really only in the last year or so that it is consistent. I honestly would be quite surprised if you didn't have something similar happen eventually. You'll catch your reflection off guard sometime and your brain will register the gender before it realises its you and distorts it with dysphoria.

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

I'm nearly 3 years in. Still not a huge fan of photos (that's mainly because I'm bad at making myself smile, i.e. not dysphoria) but I remember around that time, for the first time in my life, being able to look in the mirror and not absolutely hate what I saw. It's only gotten better from there!

 
 
 

Credit for the art goes to my friend Mason

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