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[–] lugal@lemmy.ml 92 points 7 months ago (4 children)

I like the meme but let's get that straight (no pun intended): both tomboys and femboys break out of the gender binary. Their very existence puts heteronormativity into question. If a boy can look like a girl and be it just having long hair, that's the beginning of the end of an oppressive system that should end as soon as possible.

this is the way uwu~

[–] FMC8456@lemm.ee 24 points 7 months ago

I agree, and that's for the best, fuck oppressive gender stereotypes.

[–] Arcity@feddit.nl 7 points 7 months ago

I like your optimism but we will always be a minority that will be thrown under the bus when the economy goes bad.

Tomboys are literally 90% of the biblical qualifications for a good wife

[–] meep_launcher@lemm.ee 91 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm tired of figuring out what's gay or straight. I just wanna fuck in peace.

[–] Sombyr@lemmy.zip 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

This seems to be the attitude of most I encounter nowadays. I think every friend I have who I've asked about their sexuality tend to reply "I dunno, I just like what I like."
It seems the labels are slowly starting to lose their use, which to me is a good thing. It means we're getting to the point where we don't need it to feel normal anymore because it's just normal by default. We're not quite there yet, but it shows we're moving in the right direction.
Not that people can't use labels if it makes them more comfortable, I'm just glad more people are starting not to need them because they're already accepted.

[–] JDubbleu@programming.dev 3 points 7 months ago

I've noticed this too both in those around me and myself (mid 20s). I don't identify as queer and have always been "straight", but more recently the thought of sucking a trans girl's dick is kinda hot? I'm not attracted to guys at all, so it would have to be someone who is otherwise extremely feminine, but eh?

I don't know what to call it and I honestly don't really care to think about or try to label it because it's a worthless distinction. It helps that most of my friends are queer so I've had any and all stereotypes/expectations surrounding attraction completely shattered, and I've found this to be true of more people I meet over time who don't identify with queer culture at all. I'll be interested to see how this continues to change in the next 20 years.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 30 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Depends on why you’re attracted to them? Obviously it’s a spectrum but if you’re attracted to feminine qualities, that’s pretty straight.

[–] Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com 30 points 7 months ago

I figured out that I'm attracted to femeninity. What's between the legs doesn't really matter to me. My girlfriend told me that it makes me part of the community and not just an ally like I've always called myself.

[–] 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 27 points 7 months ago (1 children)
[–] FMC8456@lemm.ee 23 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Nonbinary identities kinda break the idea of straight or gay since straightness or gayness are depended on the gender of the person, so when that gender is outside of the binary it doesn't work right.

[–] 5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 7 months ago

Binary.exe stopped working.

[–] MareOfNights@discuss.tchncs.de 26 points 7 months ago (3 children)

But what if I'm attracted to androgyny? I feel like a lot if people are and I don't know a word for that.

For reference I'm talking about memes like: My taste in women: Picture of LeanBeefPatty My taste in men: Picture of F1nnster

I think finnster had some coming out video, so might not be accurate anymore. But I see similar memes a lot.

[–] python@programming.dev 24 points 7 months ago

I'm wildly attracted to both of those people and just call it Bisexuality. Classifying attraction is kinda dumb anyway, as there's no point in setting up heuristics that will have that many edge cases and exceptions.

[–] 737@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 7 months ago

f1nn5ter man?

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Or maybe a conversation driver. Y'all tell me.

Edit: definitely a conversation driver, after all.

Important takeaway if you don't watch the linked (4min vlogbrothers) video: "[...] A question like "Is butt legs?" does demand engagement. [...]"

[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 14 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Dude is thinking about this so hard he fell asleep before sex. Just admit your enby or bi. Its easier than trying to explain why. Its not your problem if people don't like femboys. Femboys are beautiful.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 14 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I think they're implying that they had sex but that he's still contemplating it. There's a bunch of condoms hanging off the nightstand lol

[–] catonwheels@ttrpg.network 5 points 7 months ago

Not to Mention that he don’t wear the tank top anymore.

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 6 points 7 months ago

I think I'm more attracted to tomboys but I know I'm straight

[–] criitz@reddthat.com 1 points 7 months ago

The Real Man™ answer is that liking tomboys, or femboys, or anything outside of the "norm" for that matter, makes you not straight.