Physical exercise to the point of exhaustion then eat and then have a 2hr hot bath. It doesn't solve the problem that made me sad but it "restores" me to a point where I can address the problems.
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Completely stop for 2 minutes.
Listen to music.
Walk.
Also it helps me to go into the sadness. Like basically accept that I'm sad and that this is what I'll experience for a while. It's the rejection of it that makes it unbearable. And then I can listen to it and process and that'll speed things up.
Slow is smooth and smooth is fast :)
Pet my cats and listen to cheerful song
Happy cartoons!
I'm sure you've heard of Bluey by now. Its so good, wholesome, and heartfelt. Everyone's watching, regardless of age.
Here's one of my favorites for happy feels: Kipper the Dog
Its a Pre-K show that's just super chill and pleasant. Feels like a warm blanket and cocoa. This one is definitely more for children, but its ok to indulge your inner child and tell it that things are okay.
For a more sophisticated palette, Hilda is the most criminally underrated animated mainstream cartoon in recent memory... that somehow got a full run regardless!
Three seasons and a movie on Netflix. Its beautiful and kid appropriate but definitely for all ages, and pretty damn serious a lot of the time. But its still rather uplifting in how a lot of things aren't problems, because Hilda is so spirited and determined in a way you can truly believe in.
My little Pony, new and old, really does the trick for me, but its not for everyone, of course. Pound Puppies and A Pup Named Scooby Doo also hit that vibe, though of the old shows mentioned, its probably the best written. (Never got into Care Bears, but it could probably work too, if you're looking for Sunshine and Rainbows)
Make something. Doesn't matter what. Write something, draw something, bake something, make noises with an instrument (even if you don't know how to play it), sculpt some clay, cut some wood, anything. Play Minecraft even.
And don't feel like you're forcing yourself to do something, just give yourself a way to physically express how you're feeling. You don't have create something useful, you don't have to show what you made to anyone, it's about the process and it's just for you.
I honestly believe humans have evolved an innate drive to create things, to see the physical world around them respond to their actions, even if they're pointless. And I believe that when you don't do this you will feel like something is missing.
Pizza, followed by dessert.
Getting some sleep (sober). Iβve learned that the world seems harsher when Iβm tired. After a night or two of good sleep, things feel less of an issue.
I just remember that everything is going to die with the heat death of the universe and I feel at peace.
Binge info. I look up whatever random question was bugging me earlier that day/week/month, and try and read everything even tangentially related. By the end I'm distracted enough I forgot about being sad.
Not a solution though. On the upside, I got to learn a bit more.
Rewatching Parks & Rec episodes always cheers me up.
Meditation is the best for me. Not striving to get out of the "down" state, but just being there, present, watching it, feeling it, being with it. You know that sooner or later it'll go. Just as being cheerful also goes. Arts are also wonderful. For me it's music. For some people painting or writing. Those are ways in which you can connect with your feelings and discover some really neat things when you can really connect. You channel your complex emotions into creativity. I personally think that playing a videogame or having a distraction can some very specific times get you out of a mood, but most of the time it will just be avoidance of something that is happening within you. We are so used in avoiding ourselves. Be it a videogame, TV, a reel, a joint, a beer, a chat, whatever. For me there are few things better than what happens when you manage to overcome the boredom, fear, anxiety or whatever keeps you away from being just where you are and decide to just stay there and look at it with eyes wide open. Something opens. It's probably not fireworks nor spiritual epiphany, but a subtle thing that has the taste of real. And that real is oh so liberating.
I feel like a piece of shit who's worthless and just makes life worse for everyone around me.
Can somebody please help me to feel better? :'(
When I feel like that, it tends to be projection. Iβm making myself sad and making my own life more difficult, not anyone elseβs. I donβt know if that helps helps, but you probably donβt need much guilt about it.
Thank you. That actually does help. :)
Play this and get back to me on your fearsona. Mine is a little whippet.
Well shit. That hit deep.
Thank you.
You are with yourself 100% of the time. You can be a friend to yourself and try to help yourself out or you can kick the crap out of yourself which will not solve anything and in addition will make you miserable. What's done is done, and you've clearly thought a lot about it and found your behavior unacceptable in those instances. You can incorporate those lessons and become a wiser person or you can punish yourself endlessly for your mistakes and get nothing. You aren't good or bad, you are capable of doing good or doing bad.
Usually feel great after a cry, but some times I treat myself with a shower in the dark with music or a podcast playing in the background
I walk the high-line in NYC or sit by the water at Gantry Plaza State Park.
Lists, strong emotive music, niche interest rabbit holes (preferably new) and awful people (It's always Sunny)... I also clean if I'm able, short bursts usually.
Play guitar. Ride a horse. Ride a motorcycle. Play frisbee with my dog. Read a book.
Like the other reply, the little things are big things.
I hope you can feel better, friend.
Caffeine, and spend money.
Take a nap
I sit still and try to feel the sadness as directly as possible, without any distractions at all.
I take on all of my most miserable, dreaded tasks and work on them all day. At least it keeps me busy and distracted from how I feel.
That way when I do feel better, I'll be able to spend that time doing something I enjoy rather than spend it catching up on work.
I grab one or two of my cats and get to cuddling. I play ARK survival evolved, too. I love that game. I also go thrifting, found a VCR and a Nintendo 64 controller today. I'm watching Forrest Gump on the VCR it right now.
Good ending: Talk to friends
Bad ending: Everclear
My wife got me onto a comedy podcast called Bananas on the This is Exactly Right network--it's usually really funny. We both also like Dungeons & Daddies which is a Dungeons and Dragons improv comedy type podcast. Just lay in bed and laugh
I watch cute/funny cat videos
You gotta start it with a positive jam!
Been watching James May's Our Man in India and it's fantastic.
You could also try watching Bluey. Like, unironically it's a fantastic show. Best way I've seen someone put it is that it's a show for adults that children can watch.
listen to sad songs
That doesn't sound like it'd help
Sometimes the only way to deal with bad emotions is to go through them. It's good to take time and recognize your emotions and explore them, if that makes sense. Listening to sad songs might help with that and it helps you feel not alone because someone else feels bad too.
It is important to not dwell too much or else you might turn into a teenage angst version of me and no one wants that.
Take a cold ass shower. After spending a few minutes yelling at myself for putting me in there. I remember to turn around many times so I get cold water all over. I feel a lot of relief when I do turn off the water and warm up. You can even make yourself warm tea and be nice to yourself after it.
That sounds healthy, right?
Listen to music.
Say "bubbles" in the deepest voice you possibly can. It always make me chuckle when in a funk.
Just wait until you watched a certain little Britain sketch. "Bubbles" will be forever etched into your mind.
Gummy bears.
watching some avgn makes me feel better
I'm doing it right now.
I watch the Monster Factory on YouTube. Specifically the more recent Dark Souls 3 episodes with the randomized translator for all text. Always puts be in a good mood.
I didnβt know they were still running. Iβve only seen a few episodes, but the Mass Effect 2 one is one of my comfort vids.
Singing to your favorite songs
I gets me some delicious, fresh baked memes from above wholesome farm (discord channel) that I know won't make me feel worse because they enforce their utopian ideals through heavy handed moderation.
Starlight Brigade feat Dan Avidan
Its all about the hopefull and uplifting music, put it on and go for a walk, tell your family you love them, then appologize to someone you feel you let down. Cry, it only means you care. After, eat a nice home cooked meal and re-watch Loki or Guardians of the Galaxy.
Thats what I like!
Take a nice shower,get to yoga class even on the days I don't feel like it, treating myself to a nice book or random thing I want, talking to my therapist and letting it all out.