Yea, but being soft on myself also doesn't work, and I just lose my patience with myself real quick because it's annoying that I never get anything done.

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

if neither works then you might as well be kind to yourself, ne

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I Can't... :(

[–] princess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

it's hard work! I struggle with it myself, everyday

here's a secret, though: you're good, actually, even if you don't Do Thing. I will believe this for you, even if your brain won't

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

thanks :(

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 10 months ago (2 children)

It's might sound kinda silly but one thing that helped me be kinder to myself was thinking about how I treat others

I'd never treat people I cared about how I was treating myself so trying to be as kind to myself as I was to others was the goal I set for myself

And overtime it became easier and easier to be kind to myself about my short comings

Yeah I may fail to do all the tasks I set out for myself today but I did accomplish somethings

It may even be little things some days and other days it's not a whole lot at all

But the kinder I was to myself the more I found myself able to do the things I set out to do

I still stumble some days but that's okay

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for these words. This is a smart point of view.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 months ago

I only wish I had learned it earlier in life

That would have helped me a lot over the years

So the next best thing is to help other people with it so that they don't have to suffer as long as I did

[–] Uiop@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 months ago

That reminds me of Rossmanns last video where he tells the story of how he discovered that he himself has also worth, especially compared to brokem apple computers.

[–] Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I think the trick is to be kind to yourself but to try different methods to solve your issues until you find one that fits. For example, a lot of people are helped by just having a schedule beforehand, so that's generally one of the first things that get recommended.

[–] vasco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 10 months ago

SO much this! Thank you so much friend.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I made this meme while screaming at myself: "WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU MAKING A MEME ABOUT THIS SHIT NOW INSTEAD OF JUST WORKING?!"

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Straight up I'm on my 2nd break post nap since noon (literally less than 2 hours ago)

I've got so much crap to do today and I'm all out of function already

[–] ErKaf@feddit.de 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

My day is already over. I should go to bed. But I still have shit to do. But I didn't even start. I kindly ask you to shoot me, please.

[–] Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 10 months ago

[–] bananaghost@kbin.social 10 points 10 months ago

lol, funny meme

[–] imPastaSyndrome@lemm.ee 8 points 10 months ago

"Hey bud, I know you're having a hard time working right now, and that's a pretty good meme but maybe let's just set a stopwatch and do at least 15 minutes of work before going back to memes. Don't keep an eye on the stopwatch but you can check it if you really feel like you want to check memes. Okay good luck. "

Best I can do, for some positive self talk

[–] AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 1 points 10 months ago

fucking @ me next time