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Before I was born there was a brief period where my parents were expecting me to be a girl, before being "corrected" by later ultrasounds. So they decided on a name, even before deciding on my later deadname. At some point they mentioned that to me, so later when my egg cracked I kind of already knew that there was a name for me, and I took that.
Same. Although they had to have 2 names prepared because I hid my genitals on the ultrasound until the very end π
Heck yeah, chiming in with the βparents had two names picked outβ backstory. I like to tell people my mom picked my name, we just needed a little redo to correct it to the right one!
Basically the same here, albeit with some slight tweaking to the fem name to avoid having to constantly correct pronounciation like my version 1 name.
Kind of the same for me also, but I couldn't take the female name they had planned for me since they gave it to my sister. All of my cousins are women on my mom's side, so my parents were extremely surprised when they found out my sex, since my mom didn't think it was possible for her to have a boy, but it turned out that she was right all along.
I tried to find names with ties to my old name or personal significance, but none of them felt right. So I looked through a list of names online, and my name jumped out at me.
If your name feels right, then it's right :)
Interesting, I always assumed your name had a connection to Ada Lovelace!
Well, having her as a namesake is pretty amazing, but she's not the reason :)
However i feel a little wierd about picking my name based on a tv show.
Most parents do it for their kids too anyway, and trans people all over pick names from their favorite videogame all the time! Just pick whatever feels right for you.
At some point in high school, before I was even considering that I might be trans, I just thought about how it was a cute name. It stuck in my head for a reason I couldn't figure out for like 4 years after that, until the reason slapped itself in my face and I started transitioning.
I wish reason would slap me in my face
I just spoke to my parents about it and apparently they would have named me Emily anyway lol
I just wanted a name that works in both my native languages, ideally english too, without being butchered by local accents and dialects. That narrowed it down a lot. Thankfully that small selection had a name I really like, and cheekily signing an email with it just to see how it feels reinforced my choice^^
Also, if the name Eva just clicks for you, that's great :D It's a lovely name on its own, and your lore behind it is the cherry on top, making that choice a million times cooler^^
I named myself after my video game toon name and a character in a movie from my childhood. Use the name that sparks joy. If it gives you flutters when you are called it, thats the one
I chose a name that means the same thing as my birth name, but in a different language (old English -> Norwegian). I asked my mom what my name would have been if I had been born a girl and took that first name as my middle name.
Tried some different ones out with my friends. As soon as I suggested the name I ultimately went with, everyone had a pretty immediate reaction. Like it just suited me really well. And nearly a decade later, I can say for sure it was meant to be my name.
To find names to try, I used baby name sites. Helpful way to get ideas, but by no means is it the only way to find your name.
In all honesty, I think everyone finds their name differently, and I also think there's nothing wrong with choosing a name that's a reference to a show you like! Eventually, the name you do choose will be synonymous with who you are. Try Eva with some friends and see how you like it :) You can always try another name if Eva doesn't work out. But for what it's worth, I think it's a beautiful name.
Edit: just to add, there's nothing wrong with changing your name again or using a name for years and then deciding its not a good fit. :) what matters is that you like your name and that you're happy about it. There shouldn't be any limits placed on that.
Searched the internet for cute names and picked the first that I liked, which was Luna.
I don't remember how I got Chloe and I think I'm actively gaslighting myself while writing this comment to think it was at a time when I was unsure about Luna after using that for a while so I searched for names again.
Hi, I'm Ead! My 1.0 name came from the Old English Ead gar Ead meaning happy or fruitful, and Gar meaning Spear. So I cut off the spear.
i love this and i love you and your mind is a treasure to the nation
Thanks, I think this is the best compliment I have ever received π
Is that pronounced like the "ed" in a norse "edda" or like the "ed" in the garden of "Eden" (or some other way)?
Either way, I like it!
My preferred pronunciation is like Eden, but I'm fine with the other one.
I just liked potato girl
I've known others who have used characters from shows, it's not uncommon
It was supposed to be my birth name.
They thought I was going to be a girl up until I was actually born, and it felt fitting to take it on. I've also enjoyed the thought process of the seed growing into the flower that it brings, seeds unknowingly laid that grew into Rose.
Same here... but they got a sonogram about a month before I was born, so they had to pick a new name once I was "determined" to be AMAB.
I always disliked all variations of my deadname and much prefered what should have been my birth name. So I'm making it happen!
Well first I picked Ada, from Ada Lovelace, the first programmer, since I enjoy coding.
But then I thought about how my name was based on the one from my grandpa and I felt it was disrespectful towards my family to simply drop it for whatever I fancied. Unfortunately I disliked all the female versions of that name for various reasons.
So I asked my mom what names they came up with before I was born. Lo and behold they had already picked a female name for me! It was uncommon to know the gender before birth back then and so they had already sent it around on my birthcard together with my now dead name.
And well, it was an instant match for me. My dad seemed bummed though because I think my mom picked it and he the male name, but honestly he should lighten up a bit. After all, I didn't go with Ada.
My mom suggested it. I thought it was the most stupid name suggestion so far, but smiled and nodded because I was happy that we were having a genuine talk about my transition without the negativity that we would often end up with.
After a few months I realized that I kinda love it and, as you say, nothing really clicked the same way. It's been about 2 years since I legally changed it and I still get a warm feeling when people use it :)
Also, nothing weird about the name Eva! If it feels weird to tell people how you came up with it, you are allowed to not mention that the idea came from a TV show.
When I picked out my name, I spent hours looking through lists of names and picked out ones I really liked and put them in a list. My top choices at first were Raina and Amirah, and I tested them out by creating terraria characters with those names. I felt like the letter r didn't fit with my personality, so I ended up going with Amiah instead. I actually first heard of the name Raina from that one frog girl that was in an old version of Minecraft, and I still really like the name, so if I ever have a daughter that's what I would name her. So imo it is totally fine to name yourself after something from media.
I cracked first to genderfluid and wanted a neutral name that leaned femme. I heard the name Ashley one day and thought it was perfect. There was a boy named Ashley in my highschool, and Evil Dead (with Bruce Campbell as Ashley "Ash" J. Williams) is one of my favorite movies. It still worked after I cracked some more and left the masc days behind, so I kept it.
My partner and my favorite season was Autumn and felt like "guess I'll be an Autumn then π"
Oh, hey! Another Autumn! :)
Hii! π
You're obviously not from the Netherlands π
The Queen died, and I liked her sense of formal fashion, so I decided to take her name. There's plenty of people named after the Queen.
Another person who picked theirs from a video game. Pick the name you want to give yourself. Don't worry about what other people think and focus on if it makes YOU happy.
I robbed it from the least interesting song about a girl by that name. As for how I knew it was right, I was sort of using it in my head long before I cracked.
The feminine version of my first name isnt to my liking, but my parents gave me a male and female name during pregnancy and the female name is a good fit for me, I think. I'm like 80% sure.
i also was given all names of the same initials with my siblings! Eva is suchhhh a pretty name for what itβs worth :)
I just took it from Celeste (Maddie not Madeline but eh who cares)