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To add what has already been mentioned: She-Ra and Steven Universe.
Steven, especially the first few seasons is super feel good low impact chill show.
Gravity falls is also pretty great for this.
Bluey!
It’s cute, it’s short, and it’s great for de-stressing! I put it on almost any time I’m feeling anxious or depressed
It’s written so wonderfully, and can be fully enjoyed by adults just as well as kids
Came here to say Bluey!! My partner and I (both grown ass adults) watch it together and cry tears of joy as we let it re-parent us!! Such a wonderful show!
They're not fiction, but two that work for me are Great British Bake-Off and Taskmaster. The people on GBBO are so positive and helpful, it's a welcome change from American cooking competitions. Taskmaster is creative and silly, always good for a laugh.
Second the recommendation of Ted Lasso. Ted is a wonderful example of a person who doesn't understand something, knows he doesn't understand, but his heart is in the right place and he wants to learn.
Series 15 of Taskmaster featured Mae Martin, a nonbinary comedian
They were fantastic as well!
The series with Mike Wozniak should be avoided unless you're okay with passing out laughing.
The New Zealand version has a different dynamic, but I enjoy it as least as much as the OG.
Great Canadian Baking Show is similarly positive. Everyone is so nice it hurts! They often help each other finish challenges and it's a competition show :)
Bake Off is pretty much pure comfort. It's just perfect in every way.
The American version isn't bad either. It avoids the worst of reality show tropes, and it still has Paul Hollywood, so not bad at all.
My ultimate comfort show is Star Trek: the Next Generation. If it's just me in the house and nothing good in my video queue that's what I'll turn on for noise.
I don't remember there being transphobic jokes in The Golden Girls, so maybe that?
There aren't transphobic jokes as far as I remember but it does become mentioned as a plot point a few times, that for the time was pretty good but now it would be dated.
The example that comes to mind is (relatively mild but be wary) >! an episode where Sophia tells Dorothy about a guy that she insists "used to be a girl", and Dorothy doesn't believes her. Later in the episode the guy, in fact, comes out that "I used to be a girl" to a group of people, Dorothy surprised about that. !<
EDIT: found this https://www.indiewire.com/features/general/friends-of-dorothy-was-the-golden-girls-really-as-queer-friendly-as-its-reputation-suggests-213923/
Honestly groundbreaking for its time
What transphobic jokes are in Futurama? I can't seem to remember anything specific.
The Good Place is a great series.
Stranger Things perhaps.
Avatar Last Airbender and Legend of Korra
Bob's Burgers
Futurama had that one Episode "Bend-Her" where bender decides they suck too much to compete in the mens robo-lympics so he gets gender reassignment to crush all the fembots and get a gold medal..... If they made that full length episode, i'm sure there are plenty of one offs and side gags throughout that didn't stick out to me at the time.
I hated that episode. That type of premise felt out of date when it was released.
It was surprising to me because they had a really early episode where Leela beat up her sensei really because he was sexist so it was so weird that "Bend-her" was a choice.
I've been rewatching Futurama and honestly there is a lot of jokes even in the first season that made me uncomfortable. Mostly sight gags of horribly depicted trans femmes played for laughs. I wouldn't call it a safe show.
Bob's was the first thing that popped to mind.
Here's Marshmallow's greatest hits
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAnkDYwfhVs
Trailer Park Boys
My partner and I were going to rewatch Futurama soon, since we wanted to watch the old ones before getting into the reboot. I'm not going to enjoy that as much as I thought I would, am I?
As for recommendations, I don't know if I would call it a comfort show since it can get really disturbing at times, but Doom Patrol is a great show, lots of fun and super queer.
Hearing Brendan Fraser swear kills me every time
My partner and I have been really enjoying Spy X Family. Its a nice little found family/comedy series with very wholesome content.
The premise is that the titular Spy has an assignment to make contact with a total shut-in who only appears in public for events at his son's school. So the Spy adopts a child from a shady orphanage and meets a woman who is willing to fake being his wife to get his child into the elite school. Of course, the child he adopted can read minds and the woman he fake married is secretly an assassin. No one but the child knows the truth about everyone and they're each so focused on hiding their own secrets they don't catch on to the others. The series isn't complete yet, but so far the major theme is them coming to genuinely value their little family as more than a convenient facade.
Its just such a cute show, and I go back and forth between cackling and tearing up at how cute they all are. The only thing I think is particularly off about the show is the assassins brother. He's a secret police officer and also incestuously obsessed with his sister. Its a weird inclusion, but he is made fun of by the narrative for his behavior and that is enough for me to still enjoy how good the rest of the show is
pushing daisies!! ❤️❤️
also my so called life
oh and schmigadoon if you have apple tv :)
It’s always a good choice to watch Avatar
Dogs in Space
Farscape
She-ra and the Princesses of Power
All are scifi, the top two are sillier and the bottom two are longer and get a bit serious and emotional at times.
If you haven't seen Farscape and you like scifi space opera wackiness and Jim Henson puppets, seriously give it a go. It's very comforting and fun.
Farscape is a deep cut.
Even Sillier than that is a British comedy called “Red Dwarf” and as far as I recall there is no transphobia. The closest I remember is an episode where the main character ends up in an alternate dimension with the female version of himself. They hit it off and the male main character of the series ends up pregnant, to his distress. At the time I remember it being a really interesting way to bring up gender dynamics without being too laboring, though it’s been a while, and I also haven’t seen the new seasons they apparently made after the show got cult status.
Edit to add: a Reddit thread has this to say about Red Dwarf and being trans
In series 8, Kryten is assigned to women's prison wing, just because he doesn't have a penis when he clearly resembles a male, sounds like a male and acts like a male. That's regardless of the fact that he has no chromosomes because he's an android (not even gynoid, so another good point). The show makes it out as ridiculous that the only reason why he's treated as female only because of his lack of penis.
Also, in the episode DNA, it's shown that when he's turned into human male, he's still an android on the inside because he clearly feels discomfort from certain dysphoria, where he finds appliances sexually attractive and inability to adjust to human biology lacking robotic features.
Edit to add to the edit, I forgot the ships on board computer actually does upgrade themselves to present female
Holly upgrading to female is the first trans representation my GenX child self saw in life.
Farscape is problematic as well.
Humans! Are! Superior!
I joke. But Farscape got me through more than one breakup. Very queer friendly. It didn't shy away from being fetish friendly as well. Rigel in a dominatrix suit still delights me. Described by one critic as, "One American's introduction to the Australian S&M scene."
Since most of the effects were practical, they aged far better than my other faves, DS9 and Babylon 5.
The Expanse is the best television I have ever seen and is extremely queer friendly. It's dark, but so was Farscape.
Eh I'd quite confidently say Farscape is far less problematic than any other show of it's era and a great many after it.
And humans are not superior in that universe, they once believed they were and evolved into universally hated (but really hot) hyperfascists. Bringing them down was one of the biggest eventual arcs in the show and it wasn't done by Chriton being superior, he just had wormhole weapon tech in his head that he didn't want and believed nobody should have.
Chriton is one of the most basic life forms in that part of the galaxy too, he's barely more sentient than food and it's mentioned almost once an episode. He gets by by the skin of his teeth and his only real skills are maths and making friends/pissing people off.
(I do like that he also looks like a bit of a gormless idiot too, and testament to the writing and actor as he never comes across as an entitled white boy either.)
Babylon 5 has held up better than DS9 in my opinion, like both are good but B5 is just very clearly much better. The Expanse is fantastic though I agree with you fully there.
(Btw I'm not really arguing with you about anything here, I just wanted to rant about Farscape a little as I love it dearly.)
Totally meant as tongue in cheek. Farscape could be re-released today without any changes and still be considered to be fantastic and queer friendly.
The context is Crichton covered in regurgitated white "stuff", carrying a sword two sizes too big, nerdy goggles, and a shield made of hull plating. Aeryn's expression ofz "we're fucked" makes the scene for me.
I assume that you are in the US - and I don’t know if this is available- but the BBC show ‘The Detectorists’
You can use a VPN for BBC iPlayer. All you need to provide is a postcode for which you can use any random address
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I'm sure you've already been through the usual suspects. So here's my list. Hopefully some more esoteric ones will help out.
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Our Flag Means Death
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Star Trek: Lower Decks
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Los Espookys
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Good Omens
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Killjoys
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Black Mirror
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The Magicians
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The Umbrella Academy
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Sandman
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The Orville
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Farscape
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Love, Death, and Robots
Personally I would not consider 'love, death and robots' as 'comfort'.
Neither is Black Mirror
That’s fair, I would though.
Black Mirror? That's the only show I had to stop watching for my sanity, and I like some pretty dark stuff.
- Pretty Cure
- Hakumei and Mikochi
- Non Non Biyori
- K-On!
- Owl House
- Star Trek TNG
- Aikatsu!
- Little Witch Academia
- According to Jim (it's been a while, but I'm pretty sure there's no homophobic joke in it)
TNG had some pretty misogynistic and racist bits, though.
Lower Decks is a delightful show with the intelligence of TNG and the inclusiveness of Our Flag Means Death.
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Final Space is amazing, but unfortunately will never be finished :(
If you're of OG Futurama age, King of the Hill is pretty good about not being transphobic. I will always love Hank refusing to speak to Peggy's friend Caroline when she answered the phone in boy mode. No, he's looking for his wife's friend Caroline. Please don't try to confuse him with stories about who she used to be. He used to sell jeans, and only people close to him know that.
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