cross-posted from: https://sh.itjust.works/post/3197004
Source: https://landgeist.com/2023/08/12/births-outside-of-marriage-in-europe/.
this post was submitted on 19 Aug 2023
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That's so many kids growing up without married parents, and not even counting the ones that will divorce during their lifetime.
I'm not religious or anything, but I worry about the stability of these households and what kind of life these kids will have.
Exactly, it's way better to have parents stay together in stable, forced marital bondage and hate each other more and more every day like god intended.
Sure, dad cheats on mom, sometimes even beats her, and mom is secretly a depressive alcoholic, but separation would be superduper bad for the child!
Why are so many people marrying people they hate? Isn't that the real problem?
They don't marry people they hate, they just grow apart and since marriage forces them to stay together, they're essentially trapped with a person they don't want to be in a relationship with anymore.
A normal couple would simply break up, but divorce is much harder.
Which is the real problem.
A lot of the time because they get pregnant and it's not socially acceptable where they live to have a kid by someone you're not married to.
You donβt have to be married to have a strong relationship or a stable household to raise a family.
You know people can live happily together without being married right? Marriage is not a indicator of a stable household. Also many couples are in a civil union after the kid is born.
Also guess which country UNICEF says where the children are the happiest and is the best place to raise kids? It ainβt Turkey or Belarus. Itβs the Netherlands. All those Dutch bastards live very happy lives.
Marriage is not an indicator of a good childhood. Its better not to grow up in the presence of constant parental arguments and drama. Not to mentiom the emotional drain and loss of sleep or worse, timely happy moments missed because of a baf dad or mom is not worth saving marriages.
This is just births. There's no commentary on whether or not these parents get married after a child is born, but I'm willing to bet a fair percentage of them do. Also, just being unmarried isn't an indicator of having two separate households. There are people in stable, monogamous relationships who never get married.
Marriage is just a social structure. Just because a couple isn't married doesn't mean they don't have a stable household.
It usually does.