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Not really. Almost nobody sets out trying to be late.
But if you're constantly late it means that you don't care about wasting other people's time... Kinda assholeish
Well, youd be surprised... I definitely know people that leave the house past the time they were supposed to be somewhere with a nonchalant attitude "theyll wait, its nbd"
I'm sure someone does but sure. But there's a difference between someone who's not trying to be late and someone who actually tries not to be late.
Someone who's habitually late can't be bothered to even try to respect your time. To me that's a bit assholish.
There's a skill component, too. A lot of ya are trying not to be late, trying to be early, even, but just are really bad at it.
Is that different to not trying to be on time?
No, almost all of us are trying to be on time. But that's balanced by other concerns, like making sure we leave the house prepared, and taking public transit, and the needs of the people we're leaving as well as the people we're going to. There isn't always an "earlier" we can leave by, and not everyone is in charge of their own schedule.
None of what you're describing is "not trying to be on time".
You're describing an "all" situation using very specific events. You're also describing a poorly planned arrangement if the time you're expected to arrive at something is not realistic for you to be there. That's different to someone not trying to be on time to something that they otherwise could be and aren't.