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Bi Men Are Not Considered Attractive, New Study Says (bi.org)
submitted 2 years ago by spaduf@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mensliberation@lemmy.ca
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From the article:

Sadly, the woman I briefly dated is not alone in her beliefs. In a survey of over 1,000 women, conducted by Glamour in 2016, 63% of women said they wouldn’t date a man who’s had sex with another man. (This isn’t just men who identify as bi. This includes all men who’ve experimented with another man, even if it only happened once!) Still, 47% of women said they've been attracted to another woman, and 31% of women have had a sexual experience with another woman.

NOTE: This is not the titular study but is used to establish context. The study can be found here: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.1563935?journalCode=wjbi20
If anybody happens to be able to find the fulltext please feel free to link it.

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[–] spaduf@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

This is a great point regarding the title but I do not think it is particularly productive to simply say date groups without degrees of prejudice towards yourself. Even though this is pragmatic life advice that I subscribe to, the groups you're talking about excluding make up the vast majority of potential partners and for those who have a hard time finding queer spaces to meet people the advice can be nearly impossible to follow.

[–] xantoxis@lemmy.one 3 points 2 years ago

I agree, and you're right: I'm being somewhat reductive about it. Yes, lots of people are going to struggle with finding a partner no matter what, and many will struggle to find a partner who isn't straight in the environments where they live.

Read my advice as: if you're worried about this AND if you have a choice, you can improve your odds by dating people who are less homophobic. Honestly, if you think someone has any degree of homophobia, don't fuck them. That goes for men or women. And sometimes you'll get it wrong; that's okay, keep trying.