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My thoughts is that it's a simple situation really. If they're harassing or assaulting people, the women will call the cops or something, simple situation and get the guy arrested. If he's not doing anything, it's nothing harmful. Apparently that's not a solid enough answer. What should I have said?

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[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 12 points 1 month ago (4 children)

So all restrooms should be gender free?

[–] lukecooperatus@lemmy.ml 30 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Yes. (Or rather, gender neutral.)

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 5 points 1 month ago

It would be cheaper to build actual walls in restrooms than to double their size systematically

[–] bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net 20 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Yeah. All private ones are already.

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago (5 children)

I actually prefer men and women separate restrooms because using the urinals is faster than going in to stalls, which reduces the wait time a bit. Then again, if you have two non gendered restrooms, you'll get double throughput. Also, it would take a while to get adjusted to seeing both genders in the same restrooms, maybe I'm overthinking it, I've heard a university near me has non gendered restrooms only and the students are still adjusting to it.

Apologies if I'm rambling.

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

I'm trans and the only reason I stopped using urinals is because it freaked the men out too much lol

They're so convenient! You don't have to touch them! And it feels like my bladder empties more completely when standing idk

Gender! 👏 Neutral! 👏 Urinals! 👏

[–] miracleorange 1 points 1 month ago

And it feels like my bladder empties more completely when standing idk

That's because it does. The structure of penises and related stuff makes it so that the clearest path for urine to leave the body occurs when you're standing.

[–] pupbiru@aussie.zone 4 points 1 month ago

a lot of queer spaces are converting regular bathrooms to gender neutral bathrooms and the signs often say “with urinals”… who cares if there’s a woman using the bathroom while you’re using the urinal?

[–] SorteKanin@feddit.dk 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I mean, you could have urinals in one room and then gender-neutral toilets in another room. Urinals and gender neutral toilets are not mutually exclusive I think.

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

Hmm good point. In all the gender neutral restrooms I've been in, there's usually just stalls and no urinals, that's why I only thought of a stalls only restroom.

[–] bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago

Nah you are good.

The thing about this is that men are provided more space for essentials in the workplace, and making men stand to piss means less physically abled people have more trouble operating in that workplace.

So outside the gender ick issues there's equality reasons that gender neutral toilets are a good thing.

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Meh, urinals are pretty gross and you save pretty marginal amounts of time over quickly sitting down at a toilet

[–] pupbiru@aussie.zone 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

they also save a lot of space and money so there tend to be more. at bars and clubs in particular where the men’s has urinals, the difference in line length is pretty stark

[–] troed@fedia.io 12 points 1 month ago

Yes. A room with a bunch of stalls and sinks.

European type stalls that is, floor to ceiling, real doors.

[–] RagnarokOnline@programming.dev 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I’ve only been in a couple non-gendered communal bathrooms and it was a little odd, but only because I wasn’t used to it. The actual mechanics of it were basically the same as a normal bathroom. Go into a stall and do your business then come out and wash your mitts.

I don’t have a problem with it being the standard. I guess I wouldn’t think it would be a good idea for high schoolers because they’re always in heat.

[–] shapesandstuff@feddit.org 8 points 1 month ago

Thats the thing right. You dont care whos shitting in the stall next to you. You're busy shitting.

This is (should be) true for any public bathrooms, no matter the sign on the door.

[–] 3dogsinatrenchcoat@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

High schoolers have sex in gendered bathrooms to though

[–] Alice 1 points 1 month ago

It's OK for high schoolers to have gay sex in public bathrooms, just not straight sex.