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[–] Bobo_Palermo@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I am fine with labels, just don't expect me to care about them. It's not that I don't like that they help some folks, I simply don't care enough about any of them to be bothered.

My least favorite is 'preferred pronoun'. Son, I won't even remember your first name in an hor, there is no way I am remembering your pronoun. There is a reason we iuse pronouns, and its because they are readily accessible and guessable.

[–] Evkob@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 year ago

This is one of my favourite parts of being non-binary; it's such a great filter for weeding out people who lack empathy.

People who immediately go "OMG that is SO COMPLICATED sorry but I can't do that I won't even try" when they learn that I use they/them pronouns immediately reveal to me that they're not worth my time, and that they'll never truly see me and respect me as I am.

[–] nantsuu@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

why don't you just use "they" if you don't know

[–] Hazel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago

German doesn't have they/theeeemmm

I had hour long rants about that to friends xD luckily they are still my friends

no way I am remembering your pronoun.

they are readily accessible and guessable.

So you can remember peoples’ pronouns, then?