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🏳️‍⚧️ trans girl in southeast Louisiana looking to make friends (fedia.io)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by -Emma-@fedia.io to c/lgbtq_plus

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Hi, I'm Emma (she/her).

So, long story short:

I am lonely
I wanna befriend some local LGBTQ+ people here in southeast Louisiana
I can't send/receive direct messages to/from Lemmy users with this Mbin account, but I have a Lemmy account I can use if necessary

About me:

I'm a 90s kid
I'm a trans girl
I began transition, including HRT, January of 2023
I suffer from OCD
I'm a Linux nerd, kinda
I use PureOS on my Librem 5
I use QubesOS on my Librem 14
I use pfSense on my firewall/router
I'd like to think that I'm somewhat good at writing

I'd love to meet some LGBTQ+ people, but I don't know how. The only support group I've found is exclusively online via Zoom, and only Facebook users are allowed. As a privacy and security obsessed person, I'm totally excluded, and I just feel so trapped right now. I want to meet people offline, and I just don't know how.

And I'm really sad right now thinking about how much I love the friends I've made online in the past few months and how I feel so isolated from them.

It hurts to post this, but I feel that I must. I don't expect to find anyone, but I have to try.

Edit:

DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so here is my Lemmy account:

@Emma0@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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[–] JovialSodium@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hopefully some better advice comes along that doesn't involve compromising your ideals, which is what I'm about to suggest.

It seems to me the most likely way to meet likeminded people is to find groups and events in your area. And you're going to have the most luck with those big privacy invading social media services. It sucks, yes. But it also increases your chances of creating local friendships.

Up to you if it's worth it or not, of course.

[–] -Emma-@fedia.io 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I appreciate the advice, but I would sooner harm myself than go back to facebook (sorry if that's too dark). If my choices in life are between being surrounded by friends while all interactions are monitored closely by facebook, or being forever alone and disallowed from human experiences, then there's really nothing here for me anymore. I hope it doesn't come to that.

[–] JovialSodium@lemmy.sdf.org 9 points 6 months ago

I was thinking more as a gateway to finding new people in person. Once established, you can choose a different means of staying in contact.

But if any amount of usage may lead to self harm then don't, of course.