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My friend is in-denial about being transgender, what can I do to help break her egg (lemmy.ca)

submitted 11 months ago by CheesyCheese1@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/15618832

Hey there lemmy, I need some help, I have this friend who is totally in denial about being a girl, she always insists that she is a boy but she likes to wear women's clothes, style her hair, paint her nails, etc. She even talks about wanting to look cute and fem. Basically she's all the way there, but she keeps denying her true identity, saying dumb things like "I'm a boy" or "he/they please". I can tell she likes being called by she/her though because of how flustered and red she gets when I do it, especially in public or in front of her or my friends.

Please help a girl out here, how can I convince her of the fact that she's a trans girl and not a boy? I tried talking to her about her fashion choices, how it's not normal for boys to wear skirts, thigh highs, or a bow in their hair, but she doesn't listen and insists she's a boy. I also told her that boys don't fantasize about looking cute and girly, then she gets all flustered and tries to make stupid non-sensical arguments about how she can still be a boy. I feel so sad for her, I just want to help but she's more resistant than any egg I've come across.

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[–] strangerloop 2 points 11 months ago

Have you considered he might just have a non-standard gender expression? It doesn't say anything about his gender identity. And even if he someday determines he's not a boy, he might be non binary or agender or genderfluid or any number of other things.

Just apologize for pressuring him, let him figure himself out in his own time.