The idea I'm trying to express is "it's a complex situation with many nuances that a simplistic label doesn't convey". I would like to include that those using a label may not be aware of all those nuances, but wouldn't want to impose any particular interpretation or assumptions. Not sure which word or expression would best convey that... oh well.

The axes I'm referring to, would be... [identity1]×[attraction12]×[identity2]×[attraction23]×[identity3], and the sum of them all would give one's identity... but maybe that doesn't make much sense.

For example, something like: "A part of me sometimes identifies as a female with platonic attraction towards anyone who usually gets physically attracted towards anyone but males", and at the same time "A part of me sometimes doesn't identify as any gender and is sensually attracted towards anyone looking cute, but more if they identify as female and/or smell like food", and at the same time "A part of me identifies slightly as either male or female and is slightly sexually attracted to anyone presenting female", and... so on.

All of that is a mouthful, the number of possible combinations are mind blowing, while there are labels for only the most clear cut ones, plus a few labels for some parts of the rest, then nothing.

I wish more people realized that these things are there, that they are normal, gave them a structured set of names, and accepted that they themselves might fit on some of them even if it isn't in the definition of some more traditional label.

And going back to the beginning, I'd expect most people to fall somewhere other than 0 on more than one of these axes. Just by the sheer amount of possibilities, it seems unlikely that someone would be "strictly this, and nothing else".