Was having this conversation with some new friends earlier and was curious. When did you guys figure out your sexuality/identity or whatever? Was there a person that helped you or a particular moment or event?

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[–] Gaywallet 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Guys I think my general indecisiveness has spilled over into my sexuality and gender identity what do? :c

I like to jokingly refer to my queer identities as all "yes, and" mentality. Don't make me decide!!

[–] Moneymunkie 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Its funny that you mention that because I have joked in the past with folk asking what my sexuality was as just being "yes", else I'd probably have to give them a five page essay on it instead xD

[–] Gaywallet 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Did you know the one letter marker for sex (M for male, F for female) is X for nonbinary? I like to joke that I just marked the box next to sex because yes, I would like to.

My identities are a lot of yes, AND- yes I like men, AND everyone else. Yes I want to have a relationship with someone AND other people. Yes parts of my gender are girl AND boy and something else. If they're queer and interested we can talk out about the nuances of all this, but generally speaking I just enjoy people and life and want more (hedonistic bunny)

[–] Moneymunkie 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Theres a part of me that just wants to put X down just so I can say that its because I'm extreme yeahhhhhhhh!

God though are you like my clone or something, cus I also found myself vibing with polyamory for similar reasons. Like I've definitely struggled with feeling for more than one person and how crushing it can be when you're worrying about being unfaithful or selfish when you're with somebody who doesn't feel similar. Just think it would be awesome if my partner or partners along with myself can feel safe and free to explore these feelings without worrying, I'd want them to feel happy and if another person would add to that for them then even better! Plus its less pressure on myself to meet their emotional needs since I can struggle with my own brain gremlins at times and I might not be able to fully help, even though I would really want to.

[–] Gaywallet 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Hell yea compersion rules and yes, you're right, no one can be absolutely everything for someone else and it's kinda of rude to put that pressure on them. No shade towards monoamorous individuals if that's what works for you, that's super cool and I wish you the best but please recognize that you have friends and family and rely on and help others in many diverse ways!

Well I dunno, a lot of my gender is explicitly having fun with and messing with people's ideas about the world. Like I got a fairly niche bottom surgery done mostly because I thought it would be fun to be able to say "yes" if anyone ever asked me what's in my pants (and also because bonus parts, why not)

[–] Moneymunkie 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh for sure, monogamy is perfectly valid too! I wouldn't be going around proclaiming poly is somehow superior since different ways of being fit differently for different people and thats ok!

Gosh I dunno I could go as far as surgery though, like at most getting maybe more of a feminine figure or a bit of booba as I'm a bit squeamish at the idea of surgery, but then again thats maybe just cus I just hesitate a lot and overthink things so maybe that will change haha

[–] Gaywallet 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

well regardless of what you decide is right for you, I wish you luck and good vibes and I hope it brings you joy and wonder ✨🌈💜

[–] Moneymunkie 3 points 1 year ago

Awwww thanks! Hope things come up Milhouse for you too :D