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Should you apologize to someone you ghosted before if there is a chance you might run into them? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 1 year ago by SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Say you went out on like 2 dates and said person was too clingy and you ghost em, now you might have to face them due to work. Apologize or not? And if apologize, do it preemptively or upon meeting?

Also generally as a moral stance should you??

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[–] shapis@lemmy.ml 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I've only ever had one date in my life that went bad. I had a feeling I was about to get ghosted so I asked her to like. Lemme know why it went so bad from her pov. It was an interesting conversation.

If they bring it up just be honest with them.

[–] SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sooooo ... why'd it go so bad.

[–] shapis@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

This was forever ago. But basically we both drove to a mall for I think sushi and a movie ?

The conversation during sushi went swell but during the movies I could tell she was sitting farther away from me than she had to.

On the way out I asked her if she wanted me to walk her out and she said nah. I was taken aback it was late at night. And was like. Are you sure ? She said yes so we parted ways.

I remember thinking man I'm not sure what I did wrong. That whole thing usually works. Lol.

Once I got home I messaged that I apologized if I made her feel uncomfortable in anyway and asked her on her end what went so wrong.

She told me during the movie / on the way out she thought I might attempt to kiss her. And she wasn't feeling that way. I thanked her for being honest and that was that.

I wouldn't have tried tho. I was fully aware that things weren't going ideal. But yeah. Thats the story.