I've only ever had one date in my life that went bad. I had a feeling I was about to get ghosted so I asked her to like. Lemme know why it went so bad from her pov. It was an interesting conversation.
If they bring it up just be honest with them.
this post was submitted on 09 Sep 2023
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Sooooo ... why'd it go so bad.
This was forever ago. But basically we both drove to a mall for I think sushi and a movie ?
The conversation during sushi went swell but during the movies I could tell she was sitting farther away from me than she had to.
On the way out I asked her if she wanted me to walk her out and she said nah. I was taken aback it was late at night. And was like. Are you sure ? She said yes so we parted ways.
I remember thinking man I'm not sure what I did wrong. That whole thing usually works. Lol.
Once I got home I messaged that I apologized if I made her feel uncomfortable in anyway and asked her on her end what went so wrong.
She told me during the movie / on the way out she thought I might attempt to kiss her. And she wasn't feeling that way. I thanked her for being honest and that was that.
I wouldn't have tried tho. I was fully aware that things weren't going ideal. But yeah. Thats the story.
I'd act like it never happened. If they recognize that they got weird, then they deserve some dignity. If they don't, then I don't want to get into that hot mess.
Yeah thats what I thought too. Thanks
This is excellent advice
There's no point in apologizing. They won't gain anything by being reminded that you rejected them and they likely wouldn't feel better knowing why. If they say something, then apologize vaguely. If they press provide details. Otherwise ignore.
Morally, don't ghost in the first place and apologise if you have regardless of if you're going to run into them, that's the mature thing to do
Just pretend nothing happened. If they bring it up say it was someone else. If they insist say that you dont remember. It's the easiest way.