I have no issue with oral sex between consenting adults. But this meme would not be as well received if the genders were reversed. It's hard to even imagine someone posting "always be there for your man in a time of crisis" with the woman going down on the guy.

[–] Franklin@lemm.ee 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I can only speak for myself but I wouldn't really mind it the other way around as long as there's no implied use of force or manipulation.

[–] papertowels@lemmy.one 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I believe "consenting" is key here.

The reason why it's taboo if the genders were reversed is because there is a long and well documented history of non-consent when genders are reversed.

Was there non-consent where gals are forcing guys? Very likely. However what evidence I've seen suggests this is dwarfed by guys forcing gals.

[–] Cylusthevirus@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes, I suppose if you ignore every single bit of the last few hundred years worth of context, it would be hard to understand why people might be ok with this, but not necessarily the reverse.

Fortunately that context is available to you, so what I have trouble understanding is why you're not accounting for that. Maybe you could elaborate, or perhaps do some perspective taking on why historically oppressed groups have certain sensitivities that privileged groups do not have. You might even come to realize that treating everyone exactly the same after not doing so for a very long time doesn't come across as terribly fair. Because, you know, it isn't.

[–] balderdash9@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You've conceded my point that it would be insensitive if we reversed the genders. So now the question is whether it is okay for us to show women doing something to men in cases where we are not comfortable with men doing that same action to women.

And here I'm going to respectfully disagree. I do not agree with your claim that being a part of a more historically oppressed group comes with a different set of standards for behavior. This is like saying its fine for obese people to make fun of skinny people--but not vice versa--because the obese people have more often been marginalized in society. We wouldn't accept that reasoning in the case of body type and we also shouldn't accept it in the case of gender.

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

So now the question is whether it is okay for us to show women doing something to men in cases where we are not comfortable with men doing that same action to women.

I think what you actually are aiming at is the question: Why is this meme upvoted? And why do you think the meme with reversed genders wouldn't be?

I bet you want to tell us.

[–] Yoru@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago

im gonna post a reversed version of this im really curious what'll happen

[–] xor@infosec.pub 1 points 8 months ago

part of the joke is the reversal of the stereotype.
breaking stereotypes = good
enforcing stereotypes = bad