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Was having this conversation with some new friends earlier and was curious. When did you guys figure out your sexuality/identity or whatever? Was there a person that helped you or a particular moment or event?

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[–] Gormadt 5 points 1 year ago

It's going to sound pretty awful at first but I grew up in a very conservative area with conservative family (my dad being very conservative (like literally far-right now)) and queer folk made me pretty uncomfortable, so I was a homophobe for far too long. The encouragement of my dad and grandparents making it worse.

I also became an alcoholic at a very young age (12) and a part of that was how much queer people made me uncomfortable.

I was like 16ish when I became friends with a girl who got me to ask myself why they made me uncomfortable. And I realized it was because I was envious of them being able to openly be themselves which started a path of self discovery.

On that path to self discovery I discovered I was bi and eventually was in a polycule with that girl and a guy, both of which I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Shitty things happened which led to both of them being gone now, but I'm still here and I'm going to carry on spreading love and hope to those who need it

I'm a polyamourous biromantic demisexual, and I'm proud of that fact. It took me too long to realize it, but I hope to be the person I should have been from when I was a kid. And I spread love and acceptance wherever I go. At the very least to honor what little memories of them I still have.

I hope to someday be the person that they knew I could be before I knew it myself.

Love is love people