I'm so sorry about your experiences in straight spaces. It's so easy to be respectful of someone's identity and does so much harm to not be... I'm angry for you!
I agree about how cisheteronormativity needs to be deconstructed and I probably wouldn't be friends with anyone that says that straight culture doesn't have problems. In the end, I think it's up to each het individual to parse which parts of the culture are problematic. It's not like I can change my sexuality anyways, and I've definitely tried lol.
I'm finishing up a pair of socks at the moment! I've got a few things on cables or lifelines though, like a pink pig which would be my first stuffed animal!
"nope"! I love it! Lol identity is a fucking trip. It's so amorphous, just as you find the words to describe it you realize you haven't looked at it from a particular angle or accounted for certain behaviors or feelings.